Like GB said. I also have bloodied my finger with the old Contender, but never with a revolver. A while back a young couple stopped by to see my guns. He was alot like you, very apprehencive, but she had no fear. She wanted to shot my 629 S&W. I took out abt 1/2 a box of target load, since she had never fired a handgun befor and weighted abt 110 lbs. Well she shot them all and was haveing a ball. I ask her if she want to try some hot loads. She empted the cyclinder with a big smile on her face. Just jokeing I ask her if she wanted to try the 500 S&W. She said she did, much to my disbeliefe. I loaded it wit 440 gr. bullets that were loaded to the max., I do not load down for this gun. She fire 2 round from it. It came very close to hitting her in the head each time and the pounding was very uncomfortable for, but it never hurt her at all.
I can highly recomand the the 629 S&W for what you want. I also have the 329 PD and it`s the carry gun of choice for me because of it weight, but if your consirned abt recoil the extra wieght of the 629 make it a joy to shoot. You can fire a box of ammo through the 629 and feel it less than a cylinder of hot rounds through a 329 PD.