I asked a similar question last year myself.
I make .35 calibre bullets with pointed (metallic) pneumatic tips, and thinking that they may be useful in the .356 Winchester, I developed a variation that has a flat (slightly concave) tip. This tip has a diameter of.210, which is the same diameter as a primer. My concern was that since bullets don't necessarily line up perfectly with the bullet ahead, I might get magazine discharges. I measured the meplat of Speer 180 grain fp's, and they were about .170, and I know these are used in the .356.
It was my understanding that a primer could only be set off with compression at the centre - where the anvil is located, and that the slight cupping of my tip would be an advantage.
I posted the question on several boards, and received such a mixture of opinions on the safety of these bullets, that I've backed off the project (at least for now). About 70% of the responders thought it would be OK, but the other 30% made me concerned. I really think these things will be OK even in the heavy recoiling .356 (as opposed to the .35 Remington), but I have no idea how I can establish that as a fact.
I'm not really trying to hijack the thread, but if any of you have any ideas that could help me, I'd appreciate them.