When did marriages start becoming so fragile?

[blind ear]

If it hasn't worked the first year it is probably never going to work, don't waste your life, people don't change, they want you to change and you might not be the problem, that is what you have to figure out, "who is the problem?". You can change your self but you can't change them, it is hard enough to change yourself.

[slim rem 7]

 well this not what caused it but was a time when if you saw a person in a phone booth,,
it was a good chance they were calling either thier drug dealer or lover..
 as to why marriages don t last now.. we no longer go into it as a permanent thing..
 i know how my grandparents marriages were.. they loved each other but.. if devorce was as easy an excepted as it is now.. both couple would probably have broke up at some time in thier marriage..
 we gotta remember.. need use to be a primary concern when people married.....jmo
 ps did i mention that people get constant schooling on relationship management from soap operas an such today..

[ms]

Rockefeller  family's foundation had created and bankrolled the women's liberation movement in order to destroy the family and that population reduction was a fundamental aim of the global elite. Also to get more taxes from the family.

[torpedoman]

Women marry men thinking they can change them. Men marry women thinking the will never change, Both are disappointed.

[blind ear]

The women Don't change, they just drop the act and go back to who they really are. eddiegjr

[Savage .250]

  55 years married Oct 28th..........    I think I got it right the first time.    

[mjbgalt]

i don't believe in divorce and try my best to avoid it in every way, but i am 29 and been divorced twice. both times i married a girl in her 20's who put in less than 2 years and said "this is hard, marriage shouldn't be hard." neither would go to counseling or talk it out with me, neither one would seek counsel or advice from family. so i ended up alone and having to sign the papers or be even more miserable.

both complained about not having money and having to work to make things work out. one even quit college after running up huge debt to the school, and walked out on that as well.

i cannot imagine what could be wrong with someone, to be 20 something and think you should be handed everything and just literally walk away from it all when it desn't happen how you think it should.

all of us know you have to work hard and sometimes it's not how you want it to be. and no one has money and "things" when they are just starting out.

if the two i chose, who were (at least that i could see) normal, couldn't/wouldn't work it out...

what's that say for the majority of kids today?

i am now ready to move on and find someone i can have kids with and build a life. hope what's left out there can generate one normal one who acts like an adult.

[slim rem 7]

  now..ive hurt the other half an been hurt by the other half..
 niether one of us got a monopoly on doing things that make the other mad..
 to me what marriage is about is keeping balance in our own minds ..
 nobody is not gonna make you mad sometime..
 its when you set that egg an hatch bitter resentment in your own mind that your marriage is in danger..
 then go to counseling...
im so happy about this sweet woman god gave me to love in my second marriage..
 but i still wish id found some way to save my first marriage from failing..
 now my kids have an example of how not to do it.. bitterness an resentmentment
can erode the strongest love..why ,,well mabe because somebody just isnt how it suits us,perhaps because of time.. an mabe not having gods love in the mix.. notice i didn t say religion..you make your relationship strong through his teachings of love..leave any ministers sermons of condemnation out of the thing altogather....
 i know one new christian whos new enthusiasm turned her to looking for sins in others to the point that she alienated her whole family from her..i gotta believe some minister was coaching her,,, to get the away from sin,,,,sister..
    i tried to tell her, to let her self grow into her new found faith .. but this minister was doing the adversaries work in my opinion..slim ..ps.. this last was not my wife ,,just a friend of the family..mjb i sure hope you find one that will stick with you..nothing quite like having a good wife ,at you side..

[Graybeard]

Far too many churches these days seem to be doing the devil's work not GOD's work or at least that's my view of them.

Nobody said being married was gonna be a walk in the park. It can be very difficult at times but it can always be worked out if both are commited to making it work. If both aren't then it just ain't gonna last thru the tough times. September made 44 years for us and for sure there were some rocky patches along the way, such is life.

[Questor]

Congratulations on 44 years, GB. That's a fine thing. Best wishes for many more happy years together.

[gypsyman]

I think somebody said it in an earlier post, to many kids growing up with the me-me-me attitude.Don't want to sacrifice time or effort on getting along. gypsyman

[Dee]

The question is: When did marriages become so fragile?
I suppose in my case, I married for all the wrong reasons the first time. Young, and in lust or love, with lust AND love. We dated three months and were married for almost eleven years where neither of us proved to be trustworthy, and never learned to work together. Should we have divorced? Not really. We gave up, or rather I did more so than her. WE FAILED. Plain and simple because WE QUIT! Plain and simple.
Second marriage was an eye opener. Ever do something you know you shouldn't but, did it anyway? I did. Lasted 1 month, and then we found she was carrying my last child. Lasted another LONG year and a half, with the agreement that it wasn't going to work but, we would stay together out of my responsibility to the mother and child, and she could leave when she felt she was ready. I THOUGHT SHE'D NEVER LEAVE!
This marriage? Twenty two years and counting and it could not be better. We both thru past experiences, had learned what not to get married for, and we both learned to NOT GIVE UP! It actually works.

Causes you ask? A WEAKNESS IN CHARACTER AT THE TIME. At least that's the way I see it. You can blame your failures on things, people, and even the times, but the fact of the matter is, "YOU" ARE THE REASON FOR "YOUR" FAILURE. JMO