Well, Dave... we had opposite experiences. I've got both weapons and while the XDM is a solid performer, the SR-9 is much more comfortable to shoot, easier to carry concealed, and was probably the best gun "out of the box" in my 50 years of shooting. I'm sure that everybody out there is looking for "one answer", but it's different strokes for different folks.
I carry a Para P-12 in .45ACP, but absolutely love shooting the SR-9. I find the grips on the XDM to be a bit "sticky", and while the gun shoots great, it just doesn't feel right to me.
I didn't have a problem with the SR-9 before it was recalled, and don't really think the new triggers are all that special. It was the company trying to "idiot proof" their gun so it didn't fire when dropped, and while the trigger switch was their cure, they did other stuff to the gun too.
I try not to get into the "caliber wars" and the "brand wars", but I've liked the SR-9 ever since they first came out, and think they are one of the top guns on the market in their price range. I love the looks of the "black steel" ones, but they are almost impossible to rack if there's any oil at all on your hands... the "silver tops" don't seem to have that problem. I'd like for them to put some front "slide grips" at the front of the black models, because they are so difficult to operate.