Ok, the action tube does wiggle around but i kept looking at it: there is a retaining pin that keeps it in place and the hole for it has not enlarged any: so i took another look at the parts that wear faster and yup, the problem there was in the stock. Fixed.
The part that's missing is called a bolt buffer and i do see that Numrich doesn't have it. Will start looking elsewhere, could i carve down a rubber test tube stopper to the proper dimension for acceptable function?