I know a woman that was married to the same guy for fifteen years. They had a son, and the woman played Santa Claus every year for that fifteen years, while her husband went to different barns of his farmer friends and drank at their BBQs with all his friends. Never spent a Christmas Eve, or Christmas day with her and their son, or the family.
Now he spends Christmas with himself. Most of his partying buddies have either died, or became domesticated. She remarried and spends Christmas with her new husband and their families. I wonder if that guy could undo 40 years ago, if he would.
I have had Christmas' where I was not all that enthused, but it is a time to put self, on the shelf I think, and put God, and family in front of all else. One never knows when theirs, or a family members last Christmas, will be this Christmas. This will be the 6th Christmas since my Dad died, and his last one was a pretty good one.