Very early in my handgun life, I had an S&W model 27, .357. I used to think it had pretty stout recoil with the factory wood grips. Later I fired a friends SBH in .357 and could have sworn it was only loaded with .38s.
Later on, I moved up to a .44 mag S&W 629 with a 6" barrel. I only shot regular factory ammo. Never fired any Corbon loads, or handloads. The recoil comes straight back at ya, and used to really make the web of my hand between the thumb and trigger finger really sore. I tried Pachmyer gripper grips, and it seemed worse. I think those grips were a little narrower than the original wood grips, and focused the recoil into a smaller area of the web of my hand. To be fair, part of the problem related to a hand injury a few years earlier, that left the nerves more sensitive. Still, I really came to dislike shooting it and finally sold it and bought a Desert Eagle .44 mag.
Had the Desert Eagle for quite a few years. It was a real tack driver, and did not have much recoil. But, it felt like a 2X4 in your hand. Also, it had a serious tendency to jam. It also liked to part your hair or hit you in the forehead with the empties. Finally sold it off.
Now I now shoot a Ruger SBH .44 mag with a 5-1/2" barrel. I shoot factory ammo, hot Corbon hunting ammo, and a variety of warm to hot handloads. I can run 50-100 rounds through it at the range and not even break a sweat. I've only gotten hurt by it when I fired the first couple cylinders full. It was my first big bore SA pistol. I started out firing with a higher grip, tight in back of the trigger guard. That resulted in the trigger guard giving my middle finger a serious whack. Also, I tend to bring the palm of my left hand in under my shooting hand a bit. If my grip was too loose, the gun rolled in my shooting hand, and gave the palm of my other hand a whack. After those first couple of learning experiences, I lowered and tightened up my grip a bit, and it's been a marriage made in heaven ever since. It is a keeper that will never leave the stable.
I also have a SRH 7-1/2" in .480. That definitely comes right back at you with the DA grips. I don't find the recoil is in any way intolerable, but it's a lot more fun putting 100 hot handloads through the short barrelled .44 SBH than 100 rounds of factory .480 ammo through the SRH. One of these days I'm going to have to shoot a FA in .454 or .475. I'm just afraid I'll be unable to live without one, and I can't afford one right now!
Ultimately, I suggest you go to local range and try out both styles of grips. If possible, use the actual model and caliber you plan to buy. Only then will you know which you prefer. Everyone perceives recoil differently. Everyone has a different shooting stance and grip. Either way, you get a new toy. If you don't like it, you can always sell, trade, or keep it, and get another new toy!