how far off the lands do they recommend the bullet be seated,
As others have said, that's one of the variables we as loaders get to play with while searching for the most accurate load for each rifle.
There are as many ways to get there as there are loaders.
It's a good idea to find out how farout/where the bullet your using actually touches the rifling, there's a few ways to do it but tools designed for that task are best.
That said, I'll start with the bullet seated at the recommended OAL and work my powder charge looking for the best group.
Once I've found the optimum charge I'll go back and adjust the seating, gradually moving out towards the lands. With something as small as the 204 I'd make changes in .005 increment's all the while looking for group improvements.
The whole idea behind the charge and seating is to get the bullet to leave the barrel at the same time during the barrel vibration cycle, each time it's fired. Change the bullet, change the charge or change the powder and all that changes the group and you start over again.
If you start looking at it like that, it makes sense.