Stan.....
Do what you will, but I don't trust anyone else when it comes to using their powders and primers....unless they're sealed, and in original and unopened factory containers. Nothing against your friend, but IMHO, it's just gotta be that way!
How do you know your friend didn't get that powder from someone else, and it had already been opened?
When you zeroed your scale, did you use a set of check weights? Or, did you just set it to zero and adjust the pointer to center?
I have the latest Nosler manual, as well. At 15.9gr of H110, I see that only 90% of the case is filled with their 158gr JHP. I also see that the #47 Lyman manual lists a 17.7gr max charge of H110 using 158gr JHP.....without listing it as a compressed charge.
There is definately something wrong, if you are compressing 13gr of H110 so much that the bullet deforms.
I wouldn't shoot any of these loads until you've positively identified the problem.
One more question: Do you notice an ether smell, or rust colored powder in the containers of H110. If you do, it is an indicator of deterioration.
good luck
hogship