Usually 9mm pistols headspace on the case mouth, so oal is not as critical as it would be on a cartridge with a shoulder, or a rimmed cartridge.
9mm guns that have chambers properly reamed to the exact length of the cartridge used have proven to gain slightly in accuracy, in tests I have seen written up.
The reason that cases are usually shorter than spec, is to allow for variances between manufacturers. If all were exactly at spec, and all manufacturers were also exactly at spec, there wouldn't be a problem, or any reason to allow for error.
I know your frustration with 9mm accuracy, as I too haven't seen many guns that would shoot well with factory chambered barrels. I own a S&W model 39 first variation, which is the only 9mm I've ever shot, that would group inside of 2" at 50 ft. That's the only reason I still own it, and have sold all the others I've owned in past years.