I have been loading the 7-30 Waters for my Super 14 for about four years now and seems like I went through all the questions raised here.
First I've got to say that ANY cartridge with a 1/8 space between the head and the breech face is flirting with disaster, and soon! Even if you do not have a case separation, you will stretch that cartridge dangerously.
But let's start at the beginning. The first problem with fireforming the 30-30 is that many people start with a used case. Reducing from .308 to .284 on a case already fired one or more times is pretty stressful. The odds are pretty good you will get some neck and shoulder splits when you fireform. I saved a few if you want a picture. Start with new cases.
Next, please realize this case does NOT headspace on the rim, it should headspace on the shoulder. When die-forming the new shoulder, start long and move the shoulder back until your action just closes with a very slight pressure. After fireforming, as long as you action closes easily, only resize the neck. You will have much longer case life that way.
Primers backing out of any case in not normal. It indicates too much headspace. Period! A manufacturer must make their ammo to fit any gun out there, so tolerences err on the low side. Your barrel tolerance is probably on the high side. I gave up on the 30-30 route and now I use only new 7-30 brass. Never a problem with headspace, and it's six or seven loadings before I have to trim any cases.
I found a dealer with 10,000 cases from 10 years ago when Federal still made it and bought it all. I have been selling it on eBay now for three years, and I'm down to 2,500 cases. The only other brass I found is custom made by Quality Cartridge. It ain't cheep! I've talked to several people who bought Federal loaded ammo and either shot it up on paper or pulled the flat nose bullets just to get virgin brass to reload their own.
I fully agree the 7-30 is a perfect whietail gun. I killed seven deer at 80 to 145 yards and not one went more than a few yards. My favorite load is 33.5 grains of H335 behind a Hornady 120 ballistic tip #22810. It is a V-max, but the thinner jacket gives the expansion you want at Contender speeds. (Disclaimer: start low and work up your own load.)
Good Huntin'!!