MJB,
Sounds like you are where I was last year when I got started in reloading. Here is what I did since there was no one willing to show me the ropes:
1) Read and re-read 2-3 books on the subject.
2) Decide what loads you want to work with and make sure you understand what powder charges, OAL, etc you want to use. There are plenty of good sources out there but I like Dick Lee's book as it contains good, comprehensive info on loads that a rookie needs and the factory is not far from my dwelling. I also have several other references I use to cross-check load info.
3) Then start picking out your tools. Do not forget a caliper and balance. I started with and still use the Lee Classic Kit for 223. It is simple and EZ to learn how to use. Seeks kind of strange whacking cases and such with a hammer but it works well. Kit is 12-13 bucks so even if you upgrade you are not out much and for setting up a few test loads it is hard to beat. There are many good presses and kits out there but I wanted to KIS (keep it simple) and had a tight budget so the Classic Kit was perfect for me. Starting off with a press is doable but my opinion is that the simple Classic Kit let me learn to crawl rather than trying to run a triathlon right off the bat.
4) Be patient and take your time when loading. Work in an area where you won't be distracted.
5) Avoid the unknown, i.e. if you are not sure, don't load or use it.
Be forewarned that you are embarking on a path that will lead to endless hours hunkered over reloading equipment and persuing manuals. Men and women in brown trucks will pull up to your house on all days of the week dropping off packages and you will spend more time at the range than you now do. Wish I had started reloading years ago.
Safe loading.
