My experience has been that Vinegar results when either improper sterilization of hardware has been done or an inefficient airlock for fermentation. Using a jug that had Vinegar in it at one time is a big NO-NO. Try to find old Cranberry Juice jugs or empty wine jugs.
As wine ferments, it creates Carbon Dioxide bubbles. As long as your synthetic atmosphere above your fermenting wine is carbon dioxide your wine should turn out ok. Oxygen and Microbes other than yeast and Bugs are your enemies. Starting with absolutely clean hardware is a must. I have begun to use 3 Efferdent Tablets in each of the one gallon jugs that I use for wine. I clean the jugs with a bursh, fill them with warm water, add the tablets and wait for a day. Those tablets not only clean but they also have sterilizer and a bleach in each tablet. Ingredients that are mostly not harmful to humans or yeast when rinsed properly after use.
A hydrometer would be the thing to pick up. They arent hard to use and they can tell you the specific gravity of each wine you make. If you still want to try the hit or miss approach, you can buy Wine yeasts that have a higher tolerance for Alcohol, which basically would cut down on the Brix of your wine.
You didnt say if you add sugar in your recipes. As you add sugar, you also add food for the yeast. The yeast will keep after the sugar until the strain of yeast can no longer survive in the alcohol it produced. If the sugar content is still high enough to make your wine too sweet, then you either did not have the proper strain of yeast or you added too much sugar. Some Wine yeasts can give you 18% + alcohol content. The trick is the balance between a Desert Wine and a Dry one.
I would keep your basic recipe as is, just cut back on any added sugar. If you are not using added sugar, then you need a better wine yeast.
I dont think I missed anything.