These are are few more points to ponder before being caught in a situation where you "might" have to use a firearm. We could debate this from many differenr angles, so I will try to just give the basic facts as I see them.
Of course the safest path to follow is not putting yourself in a situation where self defense is needed. NO SANE LAW-ABIDING PERSON GOES LOOKING FOR TROUBLE. Just because a law-abiding Citizen chooses to carry a concealed firearm in public, DOES NOT mean that he/she is looking for trouble. In fact, most law-abiding citizens who carry a concealed firearm find themselves MORE willing to put up with verbal assault and obstinate behavior than if they had no gun with them at all.
If someone is acting violently or is a potentially violent person and begins to verbally assault you, do all you can to avoid the situation. Appease them, walk away, avoid eye contact, avoid conversation and don't get involved if you can help it. Faking being a coward is quite a bit better than having to take someone's life. You would more than likely be prosecuted or at least initially charged with a crime, if you're forced to kill the person. Believe me, unless you're being unavoidably assaulted, faking cowardice is a pretty good idea.
Be aware of signs that show that the person is about to do you harm. Here are some things you should look for:
Penetrating Eye To Eye Contact
Clenched Fists
Tears
Heavy Breathing
Flushed Or Red Face And Neck
Sweating
An Inability To Speak Correctly (Stuttering or Slurring)
You might be able to diffuse the situation by:
Carefully Listening To Their Complaint Or Argument
Trying To See Things From Their Point Of View
Trying To Ask Them Pertinent Questions
Telling Them What You Think Their Position Is
Repeat Their Demands Back To Them Showing Them That You Are Listening
Speak in a calm voice with even tones
You might think that attempting to diffuse the situation before utilizing self defense measures seems like cowardice, but it's not cowardice, it's being smart and that's part of a total package of self defense.
It is essential that you know who is in your home and where they are at any given time. Many unexpected and unannounced sleepovers have ended in tragedy.
It is essential that you positively identify a potential threat in your home first.
Do not leave your safe room and go about the home looking for suspects unless you are well trained to do so. Watching a lot of television dramas and movies is NOT proper training.
Never shoot an intruder to scare him or wound him. If you are justified in shooting an intruder, you must ONLY shoot to stop the attack. If the intruder dies as a result of you stopping the attack, that is his problem. (My attorney advises, "Shoot to Kill. A dead man can not testify against you in a court of law.)
The best place to send a bullet to stop an attack is the center of the intruder's chest, nowhere else. It is the biggest target area and contains the heart, aorta, pulmonary arteries and many other items important to proper bodily function.
Many people who don't know anything about self defense shooting, have said "...shoot them in the knee." I have to laugh. Not even the most well trained individual, during the heat of a mortal attack can properly aim a firearm at a knee cap. More commonly, an entire firearm is emptied and the intruder may be hit once or twice.
This is a little known fact: Between 20% and 25% of police shootings result in the death of the law breaker. The person being shot has a 75% to 80% chance of survival with a single bullet wound to the chest area. This is mostly because of the advanced medical techniques available today and the duty of the officer to give that help immediately.
Remember, that the estate of a dead intruder cannot sue for as much money as a wounded intruder can. I got this tip from a lawyer fully versed in self defense and firearm law. So take it as you will.
14 out of 15 times, the criminal will retreat when confronted with an armed and determined homeowner. In only 6.7% of self defense incidents is a shot even fired. The conflict can be resolved 93.3% of the time simply with armed and determined resistance.
It is my opinion that the next thing a person of prudent judgment does after obtaining a Concealed Carry License is to seek out and become familiar with a good attorney versed to defending self protection cases. If there is no one in your immediate area that has such experience, then seek out a former State or County District Attorney, rarely does a city (maybe a big city DA does) attorney have the experience to defend you.