I have two tupperwear guns, a sigma 40 and a ruger p89 9mm, and I like the feel of both of them, I do like my revolvers better (and I'm sure lloyd would take one custom revolver over an entire tupperwear factory) but these guns are still fun to shoot.
Getting past that. I am a big fan of most of what you have mentioned besides the glock... they are a little too ugly, and with most having the unreinforced chamber, not my style. Im into a little more beefy. The trigger pull on the sigma is designed to prevent accidental (I hate using that word, more like stupid) discharges, because it has no safety, decock, or any other mechanisms to keep you from blowing off body parts. Though it does go click, boom, and whacks a target fairly well at 30 yards.
For style and weight distribution, the SPR XD felt a little bit better, but for the higher price, i would put the same value on the XD and the sigma. The MP sounds good, but is a little out of my price range, I would rather buy something less expensive that I know will still fire well. ''
The ruger P94 in 40SW is also a good gun, or the P95 or P89 in 9mm, but is another one which has a kind of large grip. The new ruger P345 in 45auto has a different grip, which I am really fond of, and is one to lool at.
If you are planning on putting some rounds through it, the 40SW can hit back on the hands pretty hard, especially with a composite gun with a short barrel. The 9mm will be good for plinking, and cheap, but doesnt have all the stopping power. Though between the three main cartridges for this in autos, the 9mm 40SW and 45auto, they all really do the trick. I would say it depends on preference. You were talking about your hands, so take the guns you have listed, go to your LGS, and see what fits best. I decided I wanted a new ruger semi a while back, and when I went in, I tried out about six pistols before I found the one that felt right for me.
