Use the Winchester small pistol primers and you will be fine. They are hot enough to prevent any detonation with low end book loads of H110 and 296. They are not too hot to exceed pressures with book loads using other brand "standard" primers. Since we have removed the dangerous "too hot" and "too cold" scenarios, you can get to reloading.
I agree with the gentlemen above who state you have to follow the recipe in the book. That is the safest and easiest way to learn to reload. It will also get you 4-5 different brands of primers and many different one pound bottles of powder.
If you are on a budget or want to stick with one brand of powder or primer, you either have to find the loads in a book, or question those with experience you can glean from. In this case, I have loaded and fired 10s of thousands of 38s, 357m, and 357sm. Your Winchester small pistol primers will work with any modern books loads and most old school loads.
Steve