mirage1988, that is my point. You should see my last name. If you did, there would be no doubt of my lineage. It is not always what you say, but how you say it. You can call a liar, a liar, without calling him something else.
When my children were growing up, they would get into arguments as children do. During my 20 year career in L.E. I had long since learned that name calling is like ringing a bell. It cannot be un-rung. I told them to argue about what they were upset about, and not bring NEW ISSUES into the argument.
Many adults have never learned this fact. They ADD ISSUES, to an issue they are upset over, and it clouds the original issue.
I am not upset with name calling ANYONE. I was in a profession where few people were glad to see me arrive, unless they were on the bottom of the fight. I have been called a lot of things and I just considered the source. I am just saying that calmness, and rationale are what I look for in a conversation, and if those two criteria are absent, there is many times not much left to discuss, as the "real issue" usually ends up going by the way side JUST AS THE ISSUE OF THIS THREAD AT THE PRESENT "HAS".
If a man is lying. Tell him he's lying. If he steals. Call him a thief. If he needs a bath, tell him he's dirty. Calling him names OUTSIDE THE ISSUE, "shows one's own inability" to describe one's thought about that person, and is "indicative to that weakness" by resorting to name calling. It many times conjures up images of someone standing on the street pointing a finger and screaming insults, but having nothing to say really. It in no way makes the one being called names "look worse" but, instead takes away from what the speaker is "trying to say".
There is a gentleman that lives just east of me here in Texas that has a song out that has some popularity regionally. The name of the song is "Bottom Line". It is a country music "protest song". One of the chief lines in the song is: Recognizing the difference in just saying "something", and actually having "something to say".
There are thoughts here on this thread that I truly agree with, and some I consider redictulus. It is much easier to separate the two, if they are stated CLEARLY AND CONCISELY, than if clouded by irrational, or immature rhetorical name calling. JMO, and for those that disagree, and think the name calling adds something, then you already know my thoughts on such posts.
