Author Topic: Her Story (Read 796 times)

Oldshooter · « **on:** August 27, 2009, 10:35:13 AM »

She was born in 1931 the month of July. Her Family was poor, and she only received 1 pair of shoes a year at school time. She was raised in Depression era Louisiana. There are a few black and white photos of her as a child and her young adult years. She was a beautiful young acadian girl when she married. Her husband was a Captain on a Oil exploration vessel in the Gulf of Mexico. While they were traveling all over the gulf coast their first son was born in 1952. Another followed in in 56. In the sixties Her husband left his comfortable job with a major oil company to go into business for himself. That really scared her but she did what she could to support him and their two young sons.

Business was good and Her husband worked hard and made his business grow and they prospered. Two more sons were born in the middle sixties and life went on.

In 1999 Her husband passed away from complications of Parkinson's Disease, but she went on with her family and kept them together through a lot of trying years, sickness and tribulations all families go through.

She is now a Grand old Lady, with four sons, Four daughters in law and 15 grandchildren. She is my Mother a very active woman and about the best cook I know of in the world and I have seen a bunch of them.
We just found out that she has Terminal pancreatic cancer and i am having a terrible time coming to terms with that. She deserves better from this life and I feel helpless to try to make sense of it all. My three younger brothers and I are going to make her comfortable and see to it that she has everything she needs for as long as we can keep her here with us! Then she will go with God and really give the old man hell as only she knows how to do.

She has set the bar pretty high for her family to follow Spiritually and we wish only to live long enough to be the Christians she has been in her life.

Siskiyou · « **Reply #1 on:** August 27, 2009, 10:41:25 AM »

I wish the best for your mother, your family, and you. Times like this are hard, blessings.

AtlLaw · « **Reply #2 on:** August 27, 2009, 10:45:17 AM »

You made my eyes brim with tears thinking of my own dear mother, gone to be with my father these many years now. Cancer took her also, and as much time as I spent with her toward the end, it wasn't enough. prayers for you all.

slim rem 7 · « **Reply #3 on:** August 27, 2009, 10:49:38 AM »

oldshooter,,gods blessing on the family and especially her as she walks thru that valley..
ever bodies has to someday..

Graybeard · « **Reply #4 on:** August 27, 2009, 10:51:17 AM »

Prolonging life via artificial means when one is in great pain and discomfort is to me a mean thing not a kind thing to do. We all hate to let go of our loved ones but to everything there is a time and that includes a time to die gracefully and peacefully.

My mother lingered for many years with Parkinson's having no real quality of life. Her life wasn't prolonged artificially but those last years were a misery to her not a joy. When life is no longer worth living it's best for the person to go peacefully even tho it's tough on the loved ones. I'm not saying that applies in your case but that cancer she has is a bad one and to my way of thinking going thru what they put folks thru with cancer these days is cruel and unusual punishment.

There are alternative cures out there for the looking that actually work better and are not cruel and unusual punishment. I'd encourage you to look into them. If I ever get such I'll use them not chemo and radiation and such and if they don't save me I'll go quietly into the night knowing I'll be better off on the other side anyway.

hunt-m-up · « **Reply #5 on:** August 27, 2009, 11:00:54 AM »

Lost my mother in May at the age of 82, but not before Alzheimers had it's way. Hard to read this...I'll say a prayer for you and your family.

Heather · « **Reply #6 on:** August 27, 2009, 11:30:00 AM »

There is NEVER an up side to loosing your mother, but count your blessings that you know your time with her is short and make the most of the time you have together while you have it. I wish all of the time that I had one hour with my mother knowing her time was almost up. There is so much I would say and do. Hopefully you won't have to live with any regrets. Prayers sent your way for what is sure to be a very difficult time.

Heather

ms · « **Reply #7 on:** August 27, 2009, 12:05:39 PM »

Psalm 31:24
Be strong, and let your heart take courage, all you who wait for the Lord!

Sweetwater · « **Reply #8 on:** August 27, 2009, 12:34:59 PM »

Tremendous Story! Any mother would be joyous to know her children thought so of her!! YES, most mothers deserve better than they get in this world, only to take comfort knowing their's is waiting on the other side.
Rejoice that you will be reunited "some sweet day"! Prayers for God's mercy on your family in this time of troubled grieving. May you find comfort knowing "the rest of the story"!

Regards,
Sweetwater

zacharoo · « **Reply #9 on:** August 27, 2009, 12:45:01 PM »

Old Shooter My Heart burns for you now. I will start a Seven Day Novena For you with Three Rosery's a day Morning Noon And evening for seven days, What is her first name so God through the Blessed Virgin can mark her name in the book . Although she seem to be on the first page for leading a life dedicated to you and your beloved family. God bless you her and all at this trying time.

Zacharoo ( Please excuse my spelling )

bigMikeA · « **Reply #10 on:** August 27, 2009, 04:14:38 PM »

My prayers and best wishes for you and your family. Been there, done that. It ain't easy. You and your mom will be in my thoughts and prayers.

LONGTOM · « **Reply #11 on:** August 27, 2009, 04:29:59 PM »

Oldshooter I really feel for you and the rest of your family.
It will be a hard loss as all are when the time comes.
Like others have said, spend as much time with her as possible and let the grandkids do the same.

If you want a little something to help you through these tough times may I suggest the BIBLE and listen to a song by the late JOHNNY CASH from his last album titled WHEN THE MAN COMES AROUND.
The title of the song that I find the most comfort in (and they are all good) is called OVER HOME.
I want this played at the time of my death when it comes.
I think you will find great comfort in it.
Prayers be with you & yours my FRIEND!

LONGTOM

Oldshooter · « **Reply #12 on:** August 27, 2009, 04:39:12 PM »

I started this thread because I am feeling so inadequate right now because i can only look back on my life and see all the care and love she gave, and now she is hurting and i can do nothing to help her, save being there with her and trying to make her as comfortable as possible. This is serving as a vent for me and i appreciate your replys.

Her home was flooded when Ike hit last year and we just got it rebuilt and she is so proud of it. This has really blindsided all of us! She was loosing weight but she has always been trying to loose weight so who'da thunk it! I posted in another thread that she was having tests done, but never considered the "C" word due to the fact that "we" have no history of it in our family, go figger!

I appreciate your prayers and thoughts, and I intend to show Mom some special attention in the times to come. She is so very special to me and my brothers. The saying goes "you dont know what you've got till its gone" but i do know what I will be loosing.

Thanks again, Randy

Questor · « **Reply #13 on:** August 27, 2009, 05:06:08 PM »

It's times like this that being nearly 80 doesn't seem very old. Thanks for the post. I wish your mom and your family the best.

The Hermit · « **Reply #14 on:** August 27, 2009, 05:51:33 PM »

My parents passed in the 80's and my Donna on May 31st, 2005.
After seeing what modern medicine did to the three of them, and having cancer myself, I agree with Graybeard's statement.
I feel your pain and will keep your mom to my prayers.

The Hermit

Skunk · « **Reply #15 on:** August 27, 2009, 06:43:02 PM »

Oldshooter,

Your Mom does indeed sound like a grand woman. I'm deeply sorry to hear of her misfortune and I will be saying some special prayers for her, you, and the rest of your family. God bless your Mom and try to keep your chin up.

williamlayton · « **Reply #16 on:** August 27, 2009, 07:55:41 PM »

She has earned her rewards and your feelings are a testimony too that end.
It is a much better place she will enter--with no more death, cares, worries, aches,paines or sorrows.
Ache for your loss but praise God for her rewards.
I pray for ya'll and thank God for her.
Blessings

Ruskin · « **Reply #17 on:** August 28, 2009, 03:34:03 AM »

Her deeds live on through her family.

You have been blessed with a great mother.

rex6666 · « **Reply #18 on:** August 28, 2009, 06:00:33 AM »

Prayers for your mother and you and the family.
My mother and Dad both had ask for no machines to keep them alive.
They died 51hours apart mom was 87, dad was 85.
I have always felt it was the best way for both of them, after almost 70 years
together. They were both healthy up until. I some times wish i could have done
something, but their was nothing could have been done. Wish i had spent
more time with them.

Oldshooter · « **Reply #19 on:** September 28, 2009, 01:07:11 PM »

Well friends her life ended this morning at 0935. But her story will never end, she leaves four sons,12 grandchildren,and six great grandchildren, who will all carry her memory for generations!

She took a whole bunch of my heart with her and she will be missed!

Dad shes coming home!

DDZ · « **Reply #20 on:** September 28, 2009, 01:17:05 PM »

God Bless you and your family. Your Mother now is in a better place, with peace for erternity. My prayers go out to you.

Sweetwater · « **Reply #21 on:** September 28, 2009, 06:12:57 PM »

God Bless, you, Old Shooter!!

May you ever tell her story that those who follow will know and remember to remember!

Regards,
Sweetwater