Author Topic: It was bound to happen sooner or later (Read 1013 times)

Questor · « **on:** October 23, 2009, 02:02:42 PM »

My daughter brought one of her new friends home today for dinner. I suppose it was bound to happen that one of her friends would get me to think "Oh My God!"

Redtail1949 · « **Reply #1 on:** October 23, 2009, 02:11:50 PM »

had to laugh on that one...we all have that going through our minds when our daughters bring the first guys home to meet us..

jrnsuz · « **Reply #2 on:** October 23, 2009, 02:15:21 PM »

i have GOT to hear this story!

Sourdough · « **Reply #3 on:** October 23, 2009, 02:52:11 PM »

OK Questor, where is the rest of the story?

Hairtrigger · « **Reply #4 on:** October 23, 2009, 02:54:25 PM »

I used to work for a guy that would make comments about young ladies that were just out of high school, he hated it when I reminded him other guys were saying the same things as him, only about his daughters

Questor · « **Reply #5 on:** October 23, 2009, 03:15:28 PM »

Sorry. I am remiss. I made the original post in a state of shock.

Her friend is another girl, one year older than her (16). This girl clashes a bit with the upbringing my daughter has had. She has a current boy friend (OK), but she refers to her old boy friends as all of her ex-es. She tends to blame teachers for giving bad grades. Her cell phone is always getting text messages and calls from various boy friends that she corresponds with by cell phone or e-mail, including one guy of unknown age in Japan and several in other states. She was describing one of her family dogs as always trying to "hump" her. Last year she was 15 and went with a senior to the senior prom. Maybe none of this seems very shocking to you and you're wondering what I'm concerned about, but it was truly quite unusual for me.

Where's that rosary!?! I'm gonna have to count beads for a couple of hours.

Sourdough · « **Reply #6 on:** October 23, 2009, 03:39:39 PM »

Skyler went to Catholic school till he was a junior. When he transfered to public school and Michelle and I went to the first hockey meeting at the high school. We were in shock with the way the girls were dressing, and all the face metal.

Sky dates some girls from the University now but he still does not date ones with face metal or tattoos. He thinks the dreadlocks are disgusting. Skyler is a body builder and has massive chest and shoulders. Girls are always coming up and sitting near him, or trying to start a conversation, to try and get his attention. He is soft spoken, quite, respectful, and tolerant, except to the girls with dreadlocks. He gives them a disgusted look and says out loud, "Wash your stinking hair, stay away from me"!

Gun Runner · « **Reply #7 on:** October 23, 2009, 10:34:41 PM »

When daughter was 16, first Rexall cowboy showed up at the gate and honked the horn on his pickup truck. He gets to meet Gun Runner with a S/S 12 ga. opened his hood and cut his horn wires, busted out both head lights, asked him if he knew how to get back down the dirt road at night and how to get to the road leading to town. Told him if he ever showed up at my gate again would bury the P/U with the back hoe, and if he wasant fast enough he could wind up with it. Daughter was alittle upset for a while, then wanna be cowboy got busted for drugs and became a guest of the state for a couple of years. After he got out he moved far away.(probably best thing for his health record) Her husban now still calls me sir and offers a handshake when comming or leaving. He has watched me shoot also.

Gun
runner

Elijah Gunn · « **Reply #8 on:** October 24, 2009, 03:28:42 AM »

Good job Gun Runner!

BBF · « **Reply #9 on:** October 24, 2009, 11:44:13 AM »

Gun Runner

Me thinks you were born about 75 years to late.

45-70.gov · « **Reply #10 on:** October 24, 2009, 12:23:43 PM »

hard to take a hard line when the x has a lawer

she bought the keg for them once when they got arrested

i was not their favorite parent back then

i did the best i could

it all turned out good finally but had my doughts at times

puma4440 · « **Reply #11 on:** October 24, 2009, 04:03:19 PM »

Quote from: Sourdough on October 23, 2009, 03:39:39 PM

Skyler went to Catholic school till he was a junior. When he transfered to public school and Michelle and I went to the first hockey meeting at the high school. We were in shock with the way the girls were dressing, and all the face metal.

Sky dates some girls from the University now but he still does not date ones with face metal or tattoos. He thinks the dreadlocks are disgusting. Skyler is a body builder and has massive chest and shoulders. Girls are always coming up and sitting near him, or trying to start a conversation, to try and get his attention. He is soft spoken, quite, respectful, and tolerant, except to the girls with dreadlocks. He gives them a disgusted look and says out loud, "Wash your stinking hair, stay away from me"!

Yeah, there isn't anything hotter than having a tackle box on your face.

Heavy C · « **Reply #12 on:** October 26, 2009, 10:22:39 AM »

Quote from: Questor on October 23, 2009, 03:15:28 PM

Sorry. I am remiss. I made the original post in a state of shock.

Her friend is another girl, one year older than her (16). This girl clashes a bit with the upbringing my daughter has had. She has a current boy friend (OK), but she refers to her old boy friends as all of her ex-es. She tends to blame teachers for giving bad grades. Her cell phone is always getting text messages and calls from various boy friends that she corresponds with by cell phone or e-mail, including one guy of unknown age in Japan and several in other states. She was describing one of her family dogs as always trying to "hump" her. Last year she was 15 and went with a senior to the senior prom. Maybe none of this seems very shocking to you and you're wondering what I'm concerned about, but it was truly quite unusual for me.

Where's that rosary!?! I'm gonna have to count beads for a couple of hours.

That's a prime example of why we need to be parents first not friends to our children. My daughter invited a friend (girl) over to dinner and it was a very similar situation. Needless to say she has never come back to our house. With my only child being a 17 year old daughter I run a tight ship. I encourage open communication and playing by the rules. Most of all I remind her how special she is to us and when I scrutinize a boy to the point the boy is intimidated; well that's just because he's starting from a position of not being good enough for her to begin with.

Questor I wish you all the best.

Questor · « **Reply #13 on:** October 26, 2009, 11:08:47 AM »

Heavy C:

I'm gonna need all the best wishes I can get. Neither of my kids has started dating yet. Our rule is: no dating until age 16. My son is 17 and I encourage him to go on dates, but he's been happy with social functions at school and church. He's talking more with girls on the phone lately, so it's just a matter of time for him.

My daughter is socially more complex, which is a good thing. But more pitfalls are exposed too. It'll be interesting to see how things go when they both start dating.

Oldshooter · « **Reply #14 on:** October 26, 2009, 11:22:20 AM »

Questor, Ole Pardner, you have just begun to see things, and folk, that you don't wanna see and wonder where you went wrong. It comes with the territory is all I can say!

Don't let it go unnoticed and do comment about it is all! Its your home and your daughter and family, make your thoughts and wishes known. That being said there ain't much you can do about her friends, cause she picks em, you may find that sometimes one will show up just to see how you react!

Good luck Pard!

H666 · « **Reply #15 on:** October 26, 2009, 11:30:02 AM »

Bill Engvall told his daughter's date:

"That there is my only daughter, my pride and joy. And before you get any thoughts about holding hands or kissing, remember this: I don't mind going back to prison!"

My only daughter is 3 1/2 years old and it scares me to death to think that one day she might grow up and become a teenager.

Plus, this guy said it best.
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Hills/3456/h_rulesdating.html

mechanic · « **Reply #16 on:** October 26, 2009, 11:35:39 AM »

My girls are grown and long gone from home, but I still remember those days. I could usually solve the problem by just sitting in the same room and sharpening my bowie knife. Then daughter #1 brough home a green beret who said, "wow, cool knife"! I gave him the knife last year, as he now has a daughter who is 12 going on 22.

Daughter #2 got terribly grieved with me for sending some of her buddies packing, but she wound up marrying military too. Some of the wussie boys she brought home at first really had me worried.

Hang tough, it's a crazy world out there, just make them all thing you're just a little bit crazier!!!

BBF · « **Reply #17 on:** October 27, 2009, 06:42:38 AM »

used to be that girls weren't allowed to date unless they had reached the minimum legal age to get married.......................just in case a shotgun was necessary to clinch the deal

45-70.gov · « **Reply #18 on:** October 27, 2009, 06:45:55 AM »

not to upset anyone

but those boys only want to do with your daughter
what you wanted to do with your daughters mother
i quess thats what scares us so much
if not for my daughters poor choises i wouldn't have a cute grand daughter
some little toddler today will be lusting after her before we know it
and it won't be long till the cycle repeats itself

with out this drive we would have long been extinct

life is interesting and contradictory

with out the drive to protect our own we also would have long been extinct
keep it all in balence

MGMorden · « **Reply #19 on:** October 27, 2009, 09:43:39 AM »

Quote from: 45-70.gov on October 27, 2009, 06:45:55 AM

not to upset anyone

but those boys only want to do with your daughter
what you wanted to do with your daughters mother
i quess thats what scares us so much
if not for my daughters poor choises i wouldn't have a cute grand daughter
some little toddler today will be lusting after her before we know it
and it won't be long till the cycle repeats itself

with out this drive we would have long been extinct

life is interesting and contradictory

with out the drive to protect our own we also would have long been extinct
keep it all in balence

A very wise and reasoned view IMHO. Go back as far as you want and every generation thinks that the new one will ruin the world. We still haven't made it there yet

.

My oldest niece is now 15 months old (#2 from my sister is only 3 months behind), and my brother (who had some "colorful" teenage years) swears that "she will never do all the crap I did when I was growing up". Then I remind him about how little of all that stuff our parents actually know he did, and that when the time comes he'll probably know just as little, and that might be a good thing.

Best thing to do is coach them well and hope they make good choices, but realize that making bad choices and seeing the consequences is part of living, that your kids are going to do a ton of stuff that you never find out about that will make your head spin, and that in the end it will probably work out fine. Parents and kids have been thinking each other "just don't understand" for all of history

. Both parties are right, and both are wrong, all at the same time.

teamnelson · « **Reply #20 on:** October 27, 2009, 11:27:14 AM »

Quote from: Questor on October 26, 2009, 11:08:47 AM

Heavy C:

I'm gonna need all the best wishes I can get. Neither of my kids has started dating yet. Our rule is: no dating until age 16. My son is 17 and I encourage him to go on dates, but he's been happy with social functions at school and church. He's talking more with girls on the phone lately, so it's just a matter of time for him.

My daughter is socially more complex, which is a good thing. But more pitfalls are exposed too. It'll be interesting to see how things go when they both start dating.

Questor, our house is similar. My 17 yo daughter has yet to meet a guy to her standards though, although she gets alot of attention. She's bound for the academy though so she's not wanting distractions. My 14 yo son gets ALOT of attention, probably like SD's son, muscular, tall, surfer blond hair. But both of them have their hearts right, so I don't worry as much. Of course ask my daughter what I've been telling her since she was 2 about the first guy she brings home. "Make sure you don't like 'em too much ... i need an ottoman for the lazy boy."

beerbelly · « **Reply #21 on:** October 28, 2009, 05:15:35 AM »

Go back as far as you want and every generation thinks that the new one will ruin the world. We still haven't made it there yet .

You coulda fooled me!
Beerbelly

Oldshooter · « **Reply #22 on:** October 28, 2009, 03:02:24 PM »

Quote from: beerbelly on October 28, 2009, 05:15:35 AM

Go back as far as you want and every generation thinks that the new one will ruin the world. We still haven't made it there yet .

You coulda fooled me!
Beerbelly

Yea me too, Sadly it was our generation that has ruined it and i aint talking the last election! The generation that fought and won WWII are considered the great generation! This generation will be considered the great what you gonna do for me generation! My only hope is that our children and grandchildren can forgive our transgressions and blunders.

Sourdough · « **Reply #23 on:** October 28, 2009, 03:27:21 PM »

Sky will be 21 in four months. He is a grown man in our book. We not longer tell him what he can or cannot do. He knows what he wants and fortunately it fits right in with the way Michelle and I think. When he was in his teens we knew we could not stop him from being exposed to drinking and partying. We just told him if he did go out and drink to call and I would come and get him "No questions asked" Well I never got a call. I knew better than to think it was not going on, but appearantly it was under control.

last Saturday Sky and I were having dinner at a local restaurant. I asked about what went on when he was a teen. So he told me. Yes he told me about the times the party was busted for drinking, and parents came over and poured out the booze. Then when they left out came the hidden bottles and the party started again. He said the kids he ran with had some pretty hard rules. No drinking and driving period. You came over to spend the night or you did not drink. He said he enforced the rule a few times, and when he finished the person wanting to break the rule decided his best interest was to stay the night. Sky said he was usually the enforcer, because he did not like to drink. Oh yea sometimes he would drink a beer or two. And he liked Rum, but could not stand whiskey. But he did not like the feeling he got after a few drinks. He wanted to remain sober, and watch the drunks get stupid.

They never had a party where people could drive away. Why, because if they drove and got caught the parties would be stopped. If someone went home while drunk, the parties would stop. They had gotten togeather and made up these rules to prevent parents from ever finding out. They did not do anything that would jeperdize their secracy. And these kids stuck togeather till graduation. One other rule. No drugs period. Sky being the sober one, if someone did bring drugs, they were given a ride by sky to somewhere else, and told not to come back.

While I did not agree with kids drinking, I have to say at least these kids did it in a responsiable manner.