My good man, if you think running patches and solvents wears a barrel significantly, think again. It's nowhere near as hard on a barrel as forcing hunks of copper or lead down it at 2,000 or more fps. In addition, if the right products are used that leave a protective coating on the barrel, I'd wager that wear would be actually decreased. In addition, powders and primers, even if not corrosive, leave abrasive material in the barrel that will contribute to wear more than running some patches down a barrel.
As for having to get a barrel to "settle down again" is concerned, if you don't leave a coating of oil in the barrel that you have to shoot out (which is bad for the barrel by the way), your barrel will stay settled down unless it's not so good and you need junk in it to make it tight again. After a cleaning, the last thing left in my barrels is Prolix which doesn't need any settling down.