When I sold guns I saw so many frustrated couples leave because the man knew what was best for the lady, even if she couldn't rack the slide or load the magazines. Any of us who have been married for a while knows a woman isn't going to practice with a gun that she can't hit with, or especially one that hurts her to shoot. Women need the confirmation that they can see -- holes in the black. I was buying a new .357 the other day (yet another one), and at the same time a wise man was in there with his wife, and they purchased a S&W .22 mag for her to carry. I call him "wise" because he knew her limits. She was used to the caliber and could shoot it well. She could easily load and close the revolver cylinder easier than a magazine. She would actually carry and practice with that gun, and in a life and death situation, she would use it. Maybe someday she'll move up to a .38, or 9mm, but she got what she needed today. He didn't try to force something else on her. (He was carrying a .45 ACP.) My wife carries a .357 thank goodness, but she didn't start with it. Now, however, as we are getting older, she has dropped down to Winchester 110-gr. HPs. Still better than a mouse gun.