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Offline ratherbefishin

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turned my son in last week
« on: April 29, 2012, 12:37:47 PM »
he's battled a cocaine addiction for eight years, went to Teen Challange[marvelous place]where he met the Lord,and went on to serve him,speaking at camps, youth groups and was even an intern junior pastor.But-somewhere he let his guard down and the last four years have been a series of relapses.Last week he went out and robbed two fast food stores,and told me on facebook.I urged him to get a lawyer and turn himself in, but heard nothing more for 48 hours, then contacted an RCMP officer who was an elder in  my older sons's church.He offered to meet him anywhere, anytime to surrender,which is vastly prferable to being tracked down and arrested.My son was exceedingly angry with me-but I could not allow the community to be terrorized by a crazed addict.Finally, after another 40 hours, he called me,very despondant, he was cold, hungry, had no money and sleeping in his car and had made the call and was waiting to be picked up by the RCMP officer.
\Toughest decision I have ever made in my life,but the alternative was worse-doing nothing .I could never live with myself if somebody had got hurt-or worse,and I could have prevented it.My boy doesn't realise it-but he could have been shot by the police if he was armed with a knife and resisted arrest and did not comply instantly.
why does doing the right thing hurt so bad?

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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #1 on: April 29, 2012, 01:15:45 PM »
Must have been tough to make that call.


As a parent it is near impossible to step far enough away from the problem to see the obvious solution. I have told my daughters from the time they were starting school we would call the police if we found they were on drugs, don't know if I could do it. They believe I would...  :-\
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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #2 on: April 29, 2012, 01:27:41 PM »
I have no children, and can not imagine your anguish.  In my opinion you did the right thing for him.  If he can break the addiction, and find peace for himself, he will be all right, and your family will recover.  My prayers are with you.
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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #3 on: April 29, 2012, 02:00:56 PM »
the average person who has no experiance with addiction tends to have simplistic solutions,and while I have never experianced the cravings-I have some idea of how strong they are.Drugs are like poking your finger in a rat trap-you're going to get caught.Some people believe addiction is all psychological, others see it as moral- I believe it is some of both.My son hates himself for what he is doing and suicide is a concern.I believe only the Lord can free someone. from this cancer.
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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #4 on: April 29, 2012, 03:34:21 PM »
the addication is physical....  his body is screaming for relief... be there for him, and we'll be praying for your whole family...
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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #5 on: April 29, 2012, 05:40:40 PM »
yes we love him and will be praying for him  but there's consequences to bad choices-he's got serious jail time ahead of him now

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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #6 on: April 29, 2012, 06:09:34 PM »
RATHERBEFISHIN. You did the right thing my friend. I turned one of mine in years ago for MJ and a few other things, stopped him cold, he never went back to it. It  was very hard to do but harder still to see a loved one on coke like your son and watch him die a bit more each day. I posted about a friends son who was killed after he broke dwn a dr to get at his GF. No doubt he was drugged up. He'd probably be alive rt now if he hadn't been on meth. Without help your son might have ended up like Josh. You did the right thing Sir, good for you. POWDERMAN.  ;D ;D
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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #7 on: April 30, 2012, 02:34:33 AM »
I know I did the only thing I could do but somehow''all things work together for good '' is s bit dificult to see right now...

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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #8 on: May 02, 2012, 12:56:18 AM »
Hard thing to do. Prayers and blessings for you and your family!
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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #9 on: May 02, 2012, 06:20:06 AM »
RATHERBEFISHIN. Just got back from Joshs funeral. You more than likely saved your sons life. May God bless you and yours. POWDERMAN.  :( :(
Mr. Charles Glenn “Charlie” Nelson, age 73, of Payneville, KY passed away Thursday, October 14, 2021 at his residence. RIP Charlie, we'll will all miss you. GB

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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #10 on: May 02, 2012, 08:19:25 AM »
I know I did the only thing I could do but somehow''all things work together for good '' is s bit dificult to see right now...
ratherbefishing,
 Take solice in that you did do the right thing! That is a hard situation to find one`s self . As your son probably has hard feelings at the present time towards you, he will, as he begans to clear his body of the affects of his drug abuse, probably began to rationalize things and see that you made the right call and probably saved his life. Also if you have always been there to help him and support him through these troubling times of his life, there should be a very strong special bond develop between the two of you!
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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #11 on: May 02, 2012, 12:20:50 PM »
Treatment for addiction is a big thing in institutions nowadays. Maybe this will be a wake up call for him and he can gat the help he needs.
I know it may not feel like it right now but you did the right thing.
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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #12 on: May 02, 2012, 04:26:17 PM »
STREAK, GRIMJIM. Good posts guys, agreed. POWDERMAN.  ;D ;D
Mr. Charles Glenn “Charlie” Nelson, age 73, of Payneville, KY passed away Thursday, October 14, 2021 at his residence. RIP Charlie, we'll will all miss you. GB

Only half the people leave an abortion clinic alive.
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What part of ILLEGAL is so hard to understand???
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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #13 on: May 06, 2012, 12:36:21 AM »
Good morning
I will be praying for your son.  The old carnal flesh and the devil can destroy so fast.  Been studying the life of Abraham.  How many times God graciously returned his feet to the right path..  Mike in Peru
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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #14 on: May 12, 2012, 01:15:10 PM »
Sir,

God bless you for loving your Son enough to do the right thing. Stay the course and have peace knowing that out of LOVE, you responded. And what you have done has taken great courage. I pray you and yours will see better days ahead, but without intervention such as you have boldly enacted, a bright future would not be possible.


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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #15 on: May 13, 2012, 02:46:58 PM »
jail fixed  my 2 sons
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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #16 on: May 13, 2012, 04:20:16 PM »
jail fixed  my 2 sons

jail is a big eye opener.i went for 1 day 30 yrs ago and it cured me.

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Re: turned my son in last week
« Reply #17 on: May 14, 2012, 03:03:24 AM »
jail fixed  my 2 sons

jail is a big eye opener.i went for 1 day 30 yrs ago and it cured me.

+1
I was heading down the wrong path in my youth. I had my epiphany as I was riding the bus, handcuffed to the bench in front of me going under the barbed wire over the gate. I was locked up for about a week, luckily I saw no real jail time.
 
I just thought to myself "This is not me and I can do better than this".
 
 Soon after I got out I met my wife of 22 years. I think having someone else to care about was a big influence in me taking the right path.
 
Straightened up, worked two full time jobs to save money to buy my first home at 25.
 
Anyway, I hope your son finds the same "clarity".
 
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