CR, I know your reelin' her in a little at a time and thats good. Speaking from experience I think I know something that will help. When I first started, my wife came with me but wouldn't go near the firing line, but she kept coming to support her worst half. As she got to know the other ladies that shot, they started encouraging her to shoot. I wheeled and dealed and got her guns and leather so she had her own, and then the other lady shooters took over from there.
I like the fact that I can include my wife in a hobby that we both enjoy.
Keep tryin' brother!