IMO the recoil from the 41 is just
silghtly above the 357. I would go wih the 41 in that case.
Ammo-wise the 357 has more choices and better availability.
If you cant stop something with 5 shot's of 41, you aint gonna stop it with 7 shot's of 357..... Either would be a good choice, I lean towards the 41, but thats because I generally believe bigger is better when it comes to firearms......