<<<who knows i may put together a worse kit than i am getting and i am on a budget>>>
You've got a good point, there. Only you can decide how you want to proceed.
If you get a kit (RCBS, Lee, whoever), you have the following pluses:
1. All the work is done in selecting the initial tools.
2. You didn't have to spend all your spare time for three months reading volume after volume, web page after web page to figure out how to put together the tools you need.
3. You can get started NOW.
Any kit will have the following minus:
If you decide you really like reloading, at least one of the tools will be designed in such a way that it bugs you. Dholepuncher, for example, likes the Redding powder measure over the RCBS. (I agree, btw, but it's not a big deal as far as I'm concerned.) If you reach the same conclusion, you'll wind up replacing that tool at some cost and telling yourself "Gee, if I'd only done some more thinking before I got into this, I would have gotten the right tool to begin with." Being in such a situation bothers some people.
Now, I'm one of those people who believe experience counts and my time is worth something. If I don't have experience with something, I expect to make some mistakes. It doesn't bother me to have to re-buy something as long as I didn't spend too much money the first time around and I get the right thing the second time. But I'm not willing to spend months studying something, frozen by indecision, until I know exactly what's perfect for me. Why? Because when I've chosen that course of action, my inexperience inevitably catches up with me and I wind up getting something less-than-ideal anyway, only it costs a lot more than if I had simply gotten something cheap and used it to gain valuable experience.
So here's my take on this: Get the kit. There may be tools you'll decide you don't like and will replace but in the RCBS kit, for an average reloader, those tools will be few if any.
One last thing: Books. They're important. The 'net is fine for what it is, but it sure doesn't replace books. If you're still on the fence about what to buy, buy a couple of books. A good reloading manual or one of the how-to books on the subject (such as The ABCs of Reloading by C Rodney James and others), read thoroughly and internalized, will give you more confidence about what to buy than anything else I can think of. You can never have too many reference books about a hobby.
Dadgummit, if you lived near me I'd be happy to show you how it's done. Any chance you're near Houston, Texas? Wherever you are, have you looked for someone to help? If you're in the U.S., the NRA certifies reloading instructors and you can go to their web site to search for one in your area.
Good luck. I think you're gonna be all right.