Franklin hit the nail right on the head ! IMHO primers are best seated with a single stage press, with a tool that uses the "up" stroke of the ram. I have two. One is the very simple and easy to use Lee Ram Prime system. You simply screw the part into the press that holds the shell holder, and put the part that holds the primer into the ram where the shell holder normally would go.
The point is, you can "feel" the primer not only as it goes in, but you can "feel" the primer as it seats against the bottom of the primer pocket. I also use, and just love the RCBS ABS system. I load my own strips with the primers. This too uses the "up" stroke of the ram, and again,
you can feel the primer seat with your fingertips... It's somewhat expensive, and also a bit labor intensive, especially for large batches of handgun rounds, but if you like to "fuss" over you handloads like I do, it is a sure fire way to control primer "goofs"... Also, I use my loading block, and under the lights over my press, carefully tip it sideways, and visually check for high primers, and to be sure each and every one is seated properly... Now, when I use my Lee Turret Press for loading a big bunch of, say, .38 special rounds, I do the primer seating as an entirely separate operation over on the single stage press first... Never have crushed primers, high primers, upside down primers, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera.... :grin:
Oh.. and one other thing... I insist on cleaning my primer pocktes VERY carefully before doing anything else. This way, the anvil (which is above the edge of the cup before seating) is seated properly against the "charge", and you can feel the edge of the primer cup when it contacts the bottom of the primer pocket... This also helps you develope the "feel" so that you do not apply too much pressure and crush the primer...
I've gone a bit off topic here, but
the whole point is, use a system where you can feel the primer seat with your fingertips... If there is a lack of resistance, such as was the case in your load, you will notice it... Dave