I'll be the first to admit that I'm a recoil wimp. I've owned two .458WinMags, but sold them both due to too much recoil. When I bought the second one, I too thought I'd be able to load it down with lead bullets. Unfortunately, this rifle (a Ruger 77) just wouldn't group for squat with lead bullets. When I started pushing up the velocity, the accuracy headed in the right direction, but that just defeated my purpose.
Oh-well. Too much rifle for me. Now my Marlin Guide Gun 45/70, that's more my speed. It will shoot anything, at any velocity I want.
Besides, with those big ol' bullets (405LFP), who needs speed. They'll punch right through any deer at SLOW velocity. My regular load is ~1400fps. Plenty powerful & not so much kick as to knock me silly.
Robert