There are loads as you say for heavier bullets. Normally you could say that these would be safe in a lighter bullet, and they are. The problem comes with leading and poor accuracy. Lead is softer than copper and may not take the velocities without skipping over the rifling, clogging your barrel, and not getting a good enough spin for accuracy. If you lower the powder charge to cut the velocity, you risk other things that I don't completely understand.
I only shoot lead in pistols and I guess I'm not much help- good luck,
mike