My advise is don't worry about bullet hardness balancing to pressure unless you are having leading problems.
In my experiance, hard bullets are always best if they fit the gun properly so they prevent blowby before they get burried in the rifling, and hard always gives the lowest pressure with stout loads. If you have to use undersize bullets and are getting leading with light loads, try a softer alloy until you find how soft they need to be to bump up on the base and seal powder off before the bullet even starts moving. If using a poor lubricant, this can be a balancing act to find the hardness that just lets the bullet bump up, as too soft will cause leading from obturation pressure/bore friction.