My Dad started me with a .410 at the age of 12, one of the worst shooting experiences I ever had. Dad had gotten 3" field loads, plus the shotgun was a little too long for me then. Recoil was too high, and I never was able to hit anything with it. I refused to shoot a shotgun for many years after that. I could do a lot better shooting squirrels and rabbits with a .22RF. Even shot Grouse, Quail, and two Pheasent with a .22RF. I hated shotguns because of that .410 till I was in my 30s. I started shooting Skeet with a 12ga. Started my son at the age of 8 with a 20ga. Now at 19 he loves shooting skeet and trap. And the 20ga is his favorite. I teach shooting to kids, and one of the policies we have is no .410s. We only use 20 and 28ga shotguns.
One day had a parent bring a .410 to a skeet class. This was like the kids fourth class so they had already been shooting the clubs 20ga. He demanded his son shoot his .410, that had a full length stock. I invited him to shoot a round with us using his .410. His son shot a youth 20ga, and outshot the father. The kid was running about 50%, but Dad only shot two birds on station 1, by the 5th station he quite. He never came back to any of his son's skeet lessons after that.