I apologize, some how I was under the impression you were not full length sizing before loading.
Die manufactures have different "chambers", just as gun manufactures do. You can use a small base die also. I have not run into your problem, where a full length die does not fit a gun chamber I have, but I can see how it could happen. They make small base dies, which are supposed to shrink the case back down to factory specs.
As far as resizing them to death, I have found that cases usually fail in the neck/shoulder area or right above the web from stretching. If you have a tight chamber, once you get them down to the proper size to fit your chamber, there should be very little stretching going on after that. I would think your brass would last longer. Only time will tell for sure, but I suspect that would be the case. If you feel that the neck shoulder area has been reworked too much, an annealing should soften them up enough to get lots more life out of them. There is not much you can do about stretching in the web area, but your "tight" chamber should help them from stretching in this area.
Good Shooting and Good Luck.