I have to admit I don't have a clue what a
Defender 20 gauge pump is but it does conjure up images of a pistol gripped shotgun in my mind.
Have any of you folks recommending shotguns as the be all end all of self defense ever put in any time shooting one? I've been a wingshooter most of my life and have shot many tens of thousands of rounds in competition using shotguns and hundreds of thousands in practice. Hitting up close with a shotgun is not nearly so easy as you guys seem to think it is and shooting one without a proper butt stock and only a pistol grip is a sure fire way to miss everything you actually want to hit.
At inside the home ranges a shotgun pattern even from a wide open cylinder bore is likely to be at most a couple inches. That does NOT increase the chances of a hit by much if any. A long gun in tight quarters can be difficult to manuever and is more easily taken away than a short gun as well.
I do agree a shotgun can be a good home defense tool for many reasons but it is not a cure all for folks who haven't gained a great deal of experience shooting it. Regardless of what weapon you chose to defend yourself if you don't shoot it enough to become intimate with it then it's gonna let you down if/when the time comes you need it.
In Matt and Heather's situation paying for instruction by a professional just ain't gonna happen. The money is not there. I'm not even aware of any real "professional" training available within 100 miles of here anyway so travel time and expense would have to be added to a budget already strained to the breaking point.
Add to it the complication of three young boys who have to be kept well away from the training area and you have yet another problem to deal with. Come nice weather perhaps they'll make it over and we can work at it on my range. As Matt said he has discussed it with me previously and I've agreed. I can say without equivocation tho Matt is NOT a teacher he does not have the patience to teach anyone anything. If he knows how to do it he thinks everyone else should also. I've experienced his "great patience in teaching me some things about computers".
I've trained lots of folks to shoot and to shoot better who already knew how to shoot but not how to actually make their shots go where they should. I'm not a self defense expert but am a pretty damn good shot and know how to help others become good shots. Developing that "killer instinct" necessary to actually pull the trigger on a human is something I have no clue how to teach. I've not even proven yet that I have it myself and hope I never have to find out. I suspect tho should that time come I'll do what I do best put bullets where they do the most good. I've been doing it for close to 55 years now.