Author Topic: Talk to your kids about Sexting. (Read 1503 times)

DalesCarpentry · « **on:** March 10, 2009, 09:42:18 AM »

If you guys and Heather don't know what Sexting is I will explain. It is mostly young girls that take nude pictures of themselves with their camera phone and send it to someone as a text message. These are young people with poor jugement and the results of such actions do not just go away. Not to mention it is kitty porn. I have already talked to my daughter about it when it was reported a few months ago that it was going on in her school. Here is a link to a young woman that killed herself over such a thing. I think it is a shame and I wish she would have asked someone for help. Dale

http://www.lemondrop.com/2009/03/06/teen-commits-suicide-is-sexting-to-blame/

rparsons934 · « **Reply #1 on:** March 10, 2009, 09:47:27 AM »

I will agree it does happen ALL THE TIME in schools especially public. Parents should talk to them. But 2 birds can be killed with the "birds and the beez" talk.

Graybeard · « **Reply #2 on:** March 10, 2009, 12:46:48 PM »

Actually "kitty" porn is not illegal it is kiddy porn that's illegal.

I gotta admit tho I've never heard of sexting before this. Since I have the only cell phone around my house and seldom ever turn it on and have absolutely no clue how to see, read or hear messages sent to me I reckon no one here will send any or get any. I have to get Matt to delete messages from my phone from time to time. No clue who is sending them to me since my number was new when I got it and I've not given it to anyone.

Tommyt · « **Reply #3 on:** March 10, 2009, 12:54:14 PM »

Thanks GB for explaining your Knowledge of Sexting
I couldn't imagine you sending us all a GBO special TEXT of the Boss Himself
In his Birthday Suit

Tunaman · « **Reply #4 on:** March 10, 2009, 01:05:11 PM »

Kitty porn, We have to stop that too! Dale, you are the patron saint of kittens.

AtlLaw · « **Reply #5 on:** March 10, 2009, 01:34:24 PM »

Drunk kitty porn

My kitty of course!

DalesCarpentry · « **Reply #6 on:** March 10, 2009, 02:11:08 PM »

Ok. I can take a joke.

I just plain spelled it wrong. Dale

crustaceous · « **Reply #7 on:** March 10, 2009, 02:11:48 PM »

I have a little experience with kiddie porn. Several years ago we agreed to take my niece in. She was getting into trouble in Houston and everyone thought a little time in the mountains would give her a chance to reflect and mend her ways. She arrived around Thanksgiving and every thing was going great until shortly after New Years. There was a Mountain Dew ski race that my kids placed in, so being the proud pop I took their pictures with their medals and skis. As I was down loading the pictures from the camera to the computer I saw my pictures with my nieces name as a prefix. I didn't think anything about it because she had free use of the camera and computer. I sent the pictures to my mom and my wifes parents. Two days later I got a call from my father-in-law and he says "You know those pictures you sent me of my grandchildren with their race medals? Well they weren't, they were pictures of my granddaughter naked!" My blood pressure redlined and as soon as I was done apologizing I called home to talk to my wife. Told her about the "issue" and she talked to my niece who was at home. The niece said they were old pictures that her Houston boyfriend had taken and had recently sent her. My next call was to my mom. She knew the niece was staying with us and assumed I took the pictures and was into kiddie porn. Her and my sister already had airplane tickets to fly out and surprise me. She was prepared to shoot my balls off and take my children away. Not a great conversation.
I decided to teach the Houston boyfriend a lesson and contacted the FBI about this kid sending kiddie porn over the internet. In the proscess of telling me what I needed to do and what to send them they got all my personal info.
That evening when I got home the niece's story had changed. She actually took the pictures in our house with our camera and sent them to her boyfriend from our computer. Now I 've got kiddie porn on my computer and I've told the FBI about it. Next day I had my buddy the computer expert clean those pics out. Otherwise I was prepared to burn it.
The niece never could understand the implications of her actions. I kept asking her what she thought would happen if those pictures resurface during her career or what could happen to me if someone thought I took the pictures.
This was the beginning of a downward spiral. Within three months she had a felony conviction for some other extracurricular activities. I couldn't get rid of her fast enough.
Needless to say I'm not very anxious to help out with other peoples kids any more!

I never could figure out how I sent the porno pics because everytime I brought the pics up they were my kids?

DalesCarpentry · « **Reply #8 on:** March 10, 2009, 02:24:17 PM »

That is a scary story for sure. Those pictures could have some how been in a sub folder of those other pictures. Dale

Brett · « **Reply #9 on:** March 10, 2009, 02:30:34 PM »

Yikes, That is a scary story. It could easily have been you with the felony record if the Feds didn't believe your explanation.

Cabin4 · « **Reply #10 on:** March 10, 2009, 02:43:56 PM »

There was something on the news the other day about this. They were explaining a case where a 14 year old boy is being prosecuted for having child porn on his phone because a 13 year old girl text him a nude picture of herself to him.

Very strange , for many reasons.

wareagleguy · « **Reply #11 on:** March 10, 2009, 02:51:16 PM »

I want to ask all you fathers with girls. What would you do to the boy friend? I know the girl made a mistake but it was the boy that sent the pictures to the other classmates. I do believe I would have done something really bad. REAL BAD.

Tunaman · « **Reply #12 on:** March 10, 2009, 02:59:26 PM »

Quote from: wareagleguy on March 10, 2009, 02:51:16 PM

I want to ask all you fathers with girls. What would you do to the boy friend? I know the girl made a mistake but it was the boy that sent the pictures to the other classmates. I do believe I would have done something really bad. REAL BAD.

I would invite the boy gator hunting. He may learn a few lessons while hunting with me.

45-70.gov · « **Reply #13 on:** March 10, 2009, 03:20:09 PM »

my x has some has some nude photos of me

and if she ever makes them public

i hope she spells my name right and gives my address

i was young and more muscular then and would be proud

not that i have any thing to hide now lol

DalesCarpentry · « **Reply #14 on:** March 10, 2009, 04:36:50 PM »

Quote from: wareagleguy on March 10, 2009, 02:51:16 PM

I want to ask all you fathers with girls. What would you do to the boy friend? I know the girl made a mistake but it was the boy that sent the pictures to the other classmates. I do believe I would have done something really bad. REAL BAD.

I have talked to my daughter again tonight about this after I first posted it. She says dad I am not that stupid. I said ok I will let it go at that. Just remember those pictures never go away. My daughter is a good kid and has a good head on her shoulders. I really don't think she would do such a thing. Now for the boy that spread that filth everywhere. First off for a girl to do that I think she thinks she is in love and wants to show off to her boy friend. Big mistake. Like I said those pictures do not go away. If that kid was spreading that filth around about my daughter I would try to stay in control. I would report it to the police and hope they take care of it. I guess it would depend on how things went as to how I would react to it. Now if he was to rape and beat my daughter that would be another story. Dale

Cabin4 · « **Reply #15 on:** March 10, 2009, 04:38:34 PM »

What if an under aged girl sends an unsolicited nude picture of her self to an under aged or of age boy or girl?

DalesCarpentry · « **Reply #16 on:** March 10, 2009, 04:40:35 PM »

Quote from: cabin4 on March 10, 2009, 04:38:34 PM

What if an under aged girl sends an unsolicited dude picture of her self to an under aged or of age boy or girl?

That is still Kiddy porn and should be dealt with. The fact is the the young girl is comitting a crime weather she knows it or not. Those pictures stand a good chance to make it to the internet where they will be for all time. Dale

45-70.gov · « **Reply #17 on:** March 10, 2009, 04:45:49 PM »

Quote from: wareagleguy on March 10, 2009, 02:51:16 PM

I want to ask all you fathers with girls. What would you do to the boy friend? I know the girl made a mistake but it was the boy that sent the pictures to the other classmates. I do believe I would have done something really bad. REAL BAD.

last time my daughter had a problem
it cost ten thousand dollars to get my son out of jail
but they didn't even get the minor son that did all the damage

i want to meet him
ask him if the old man hits as hard as the boys lol

DalesCarpentry · « **Reply #18 on:** March 10, 2009, 04:49:29 PM »

Quote from: 45-70.gov on March 10, 2009, 04:45:49 PM

Quote from: wareagleguy on March 10, 2009, 02:51:16 PM
I want to ask all you fathers with girls. What would you do to the boy friend? I know the girl made a mistake but it was the boy that sent the pictures to the other classmates. I do believe I would have done something really bad. REAL BAD.

last time my daughter had a problem
it cost ten thousand dollars to get my son out of jail
but they didn't even get the minor son that did all the damage

i want to meet him
ask him if the old man hits as hard as the boys lol

Could you please try to explain it better? I can't follow. Dale

Cabin4 · « **Reply #19 on:** March 10, 2009, 04:53:31 PM »

Quote from: DALESCARPENTRY on March 10, 2009, 04:40:35 PM

Quote from: cabin4 on March 10, 2009, 04:38:34 PM
What if an under aged girl sends an unsolicited dude picture of her self to an under aged or of age boy or girl?
That is still Kiddy porn and should be dealt with. The fact is the the young girl is comitting a crime weather she knows it or not. Those pictures stand a good chance to make it to the internet where they will be for all time. Dale

I completly agree the pic is kiddy porn. My question was more about the people on the receiving end. If the receiver did not ask for the pics or maybe never even knew that got them on the phone, how can they be held liable for having kiddy porn? How can law enforcement shift through this....

DalesCarpentry · « **Reply #20 on:** March 10, 2009, 04:59:33 PM »

Quote from: cabin4 on March 10, 2009, 04:53:31 PM

Quote from: DALESCARPENTRY on March 10, 2009, 04:40:35 PM
Quote from: cabin4 on March 10, 2009, 04:38:34 PM
What if an under aged girl sends an unsolicited dude picture of her self to an under aged or of age boy or girl?
That is still Kiddy porn and should be dealt with. The fact is the the young girl is comitting a crime weather she knows it or not. Those pictures stand a good chance to make it to the internet where they will be for all time. Dale

I completly agree the pic is kiddy porn. My question was more about the people on the receiving end. If the receiver did not ask for the pics or maybe never even knew that got them on the phone, how can they be held liable for having kiddy porn? How can law enforcement shift through this....

Well I have to agree. The person receiving the pictures should not be guilty of anything. My best advice would be to delete them as soon as you know they are wrong. I think they probably could find out if you kept those pictures in your phone for weeks before getting rid of them. My advice really would to be report them as soon as you get them unless you want to go to jail. Dale

45-70.gov · « **Reply #21 on:** March 10, 2009, 05:07:47 PM »

Quote from: DALESCARPENTRY on March 10, 2009, 04:49:29 PM

Quote from: 45-70.gov on March 10, 2009, 04:45:49 PM
Quote from: wareagleguy on March 10, 2009, 02:51:16 PM
I want to ask all you fathers with girls. What would you do to the boy friend? I know the girl made a mistake but it was the boy that sent the pictures to the other classmates. I do believe I would have done something really bad. REAL BAD.

last time my daughter had a problem
it cost ten thousand dollars to get my son out of jail
but they didn't even get the minor son that did all the damage

i want to meet him
ask him if the old man hits as hard as the boys lol
Could you please try to explain it better? I can't follow. Dale

my sons took care of the problem and got caught
they had to pay the boys medical bills to get felony charges dropped to mistemeaners
bail was 10 k

slim rem 7 · « **Reply #22 on:** March 10, 2009, 11:48:30 PM »

i don t know what to think.. my kids all grown.. but god helpus if its that bad..

myronman3 · « **Reply #23 on:** March 11, 2009, 03:08:53 AM »

i wonder what all of your father in laws would have to say about all of this? some food for thought. and before some fool says anything, yes, i have a daughter. some things you need to remember is...1.) boys chasing girls has been happening since the beginning of time. 2.) you were all teenagers once yourselves and chasing girls
yes, there is a line. but i think some of you are getting more than a wee bit self rightous.

Singleshotsam · « **Reply #24 on:** March 11, 2009, 03:44:28 AM »

I gotta agree w/ Myronman... Had you older guys had the technology, you would've been caught up in the same thing when you were 16. And don't say that you would've known better... We've all done completely stupid things when we were caught up in the moment and then felt bad about it later.

All I can say is I'm thankful that my ex's fathers never found out about some of the things their daughters talked me into doing... much less what I talked them into...

rparsons934 · « **Reply #25 on:** March 11, 2009, 03:48:44 AM »

I agree SSS. We all did things in High school. But im sure this problem is hitting in the 6th grade and younger. I will be honest and tell you i have recieved a few naked text message pictures from girls in high school.(when I was there) But parents should still talk to thier children at young age. One of my co-workers has a son in the 6th grade. There are girls having sex in his grade regularly. I guess from my understanding her son isnt allowed to see these girls. But he has told her some horrror storys.

Questor · « **Reply #26 on:** March 11, 2009, 03:49:22 AM »

If it's not one thing it's another with kids. The really interesting aspect of this is the suicide. A friend of mine has worked with wayward youth, like gangsters, for many years. She has talked to many who were shot. The common thread is that they couldn't believe it was a painful experience. This seems symptomatic of kids not understanding the difference between life and death.

45-70.gov · « **Reply #27 on:** March 11, 2009, 04:04:56 AM »

Quote from: Singleshotsam on March 11, 2009, 03:44:28 AM

I gotta agree w/ Myronman... Had you older guys had the technology, you would've been caught up in the same thing when you were 16. And don't say that you would've known better... We've all done completely stupid things when we were caught up in the moment and then felt bad about it later.

All I can say is I'm thankful that my ex's fathers never found out about some of the things their daughters talked me into doing... much less what I talked them into...

been nice knowing you

your ex's fathers know now your a hunted man.....care to share details

Singleshotsam · « **Reply #28 on:** March 11, 2009, 04:25:24 AM »

Quote

been nice knowing you

your ex's fathers know now your a hunted man.....care to share details
Posted on: Today at 08:49:22 AMPosted by: Questor

Eh... I'm not too worried. I work with one of my ex's father and he's a great guy. He told me he was disappointed that his daughter didn't keep me when he saw some of the boys she brought home after we broke up. I talk w/ the father of another one of my ex's on daily basis. He's a good guy as well.

6th grade is young for girls to be getting caught up in those types of activities... Hell I think 6th grade is too young for a kid to have a cell phone at all. If your worried about your daughter sexting then don't give her a cell phone.

45-70.gov · « **Reply #29 on:** March 11, 2009, 04:51:55 AM »

any one that would kill themself over some ting like this

had much bigger problems that was just the ''straw that......''

we all make mistakes
its learning to deal with them is what counts
the boy and the girl made mistakes part of growing up
girl decided not to grow up