Charles P,......My wife went through this stage and I got her a Smith & Wesson .38spl revolver, in the "Air-Weight". It is light to handle and will shoot .38+ P ammo ! It is a 5 shot revolver but with no exposed hammer nor rear sight to catch on clothing etc. My wife carried it for awhile with 4 shots in the cylinder and NO shell under the striker etc, for safety reasons. This is a great little pistol and you don't need sights under 15 ft to hit vitals that are 12 inches on a human torso! You just point that barrel and the bullet will hit the mark. Most confrontations on the street are under 10 feet away or closer. Point and "double-tap" the target simply put.
Several women I have seen at the range, could NOT work the slide on a Sig-Sauer, Glock or even the Kahr pistol. I have never seen anyone "limp-wrist" a revolver fact, pull trigger they go BANG 99.8% of the time. Many semi-auto pistols, especially the cheap ones and even a $600 dollar Kahr can be "limp-wristed" my own wife has done so and the guns JAMMED. She has never been able to Limp-Wrist a Glock........they always go BANG BANG BANG when you pull the trigger.
Next she tried several smaller semi-auto's but that was bad news, as she "limp-wristed" some of those and several of those cheap small pocket pistols JAMMED & RE-JAMMED on her and myself.
My personal feeling is that it is hard to beat a GLOCK in a sub-compact 9mm Luger for CCW for a women. My wife's carried a model 26 Glock, for a little while but went to a full size grip in the model 22 and liked it better....lots of ammo in the magazine! She later went back to the model 23 (shorter 4inch barrel) but still full size grip.
She tried the Sig Sauers (exposed hammer, not good for a purse) but had a problem with the 10-lb trigger pull on the first shot.......easy fix if you have a spring kit put in the pistol, cost being under $20 dollars for the kit. Trying to pull back the hammer in the heat of a possible mugging is a lot of stress for a woemen to deal with period, and those Sig smallhammers are not made for such a task on the first shot.
My wife now has a Glock model 23 has her CCW tool, it's a .40 cal Smith & Wesson but she has shot over 5,000 rounds since June of this year. It takes a lot of practice to become confident and obtain good marksmanship. Those Glocks go BANG when you need them too! Good Luck