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[slim rem 7]

some of yall know im not in the best situation..tonight my wife overheard me telling her son just how serious his ma mas condition is..it left her broken hearted an feeling as if i had betrayed her..
 this intern left me with depression .. .
 im not planning on loosing my rational mind.. but this is the hardest fight ive ever been in.. i can handle it as long as my mind holds up..
 but if one of my friends on here ,,notices that my mind is going to the irrational.. please just let me know ..
 it would be a great favor to me ..as i don t quit a task that involves my vows an my love..
 if im not nice to you for telling me ..you will know you did the right thing..
 i catch myself sometimes just feeling overcome with sorrow for her ,,also feeling a bit angry an feeling sorry for my self..these won t help me continue the task the lord has given me..
 i don t mean i ll give up ..
life is full of suffering ..i know when you realize that .. it just becomes life..
 no more or less than multitudes have dealt with an held togather to the end..
 this i intend to do if its in me.. she won t be left in four walls an sedated ..
 i know rest homes an nursing centers.. they do the best they can ,,most time.. but im gonna make dam sure she s never mistreated .. or treated in a noncompassionate way..
 so do me a favor ,,you who are my friends..give me a heads up ..if you see signs of me cracking [in my post.].it ll be appreciated.. i caught my self doing a tad of that to night an it scared me a bit..
 nothing near breaking me.. but ive got a feeling the battles just started..slim
 
 ps im not sure my kids won t jump the gun with this advice , before i need to finally give up the fight..
 im not planning to ,as its a terrible thing to not see a loved one through..
 shes not thier mother..
 i do see the silence in thier eyes.. but they also know thier daddy leans on the,father,much these days..
 at this point life hasn t taught but one ofem ,the faith i have. but my prayer is he ll teach them all
 total faith in the father in heaven.his grace is sufficent.
 

 

[williamlayton]

You post and we will listen.
I know how much it hurts--been there. I know how helpless you feel--and you are helpless in yourownself.
Our prayers are with you.
Just a thought, I think they knew without you betraying her trust.
Remember, she is loosing control and it freightens her.
Stay close to the Lord and remember HE is the light at the end of the tunnel.
Blessings

[slim rem 7]

 amen .. brother..an thanks ,,slim

[billy_56081]

Prayer for you and yours Slim. We're all here for you.

[Mikey]

Slim - you have friends here whether you know it or not.  There are any number of men on this site who have gone through what you are and who had to go through it and bear the pain and uncertainty without any help from supoprt groups or any of that social work crap.  When we feel we need to intervene to get you back on track we will do so.

Your job, in the interim, is to comfort your wife as her condition worsens and she comes to her final days and to prepare her for the transition.  Don't hang all over her as it becomes smothering.  Just be the man she married and let her take comfort in that.  You cannot go all happy-sappy because she is going to a better place where she will never know pain, discomfort or uncertainty but at the same time you cannot be all doom and gloom because you are going to lose her.  You have to find the middle of the road.  Also, make certain any of the children still around don't become morose and say dumb things.

My late wife knew she wasn't going to make it and it really whizzed her off.  She was scared.  All she really wanted to know was that 'if something happened to her' I wouldn't let them hurt her and that I would take care of the dogs.  

All you can do is try your best but don't ever turn your back or walk out on her when it starts getting bad - that's when you are supposed to 'man up' and stay the course, and don't ever lay blame on her for getting ill or leaving you, it is something she never intended to do.

We are all right here slim, whenever you need us.

[Elijah Gunn]

All you can do is try your best but don't ever turn your back or walk out on her when it starts getting bad - that's when you are supposed to 'man up' and stay the course, and don't ever lay blame on her for getting ill or leaving you, it is something she never intended to do.

We are all right here slim, whenever you need us.

Could not have said this better myself. Hang in there Slim.

[kynardsj]

Prayers sent Slim. Stay strong Buddy.

[slim rem 7]

 thanks brothers.. talking even in typed words help more than anything..
 william.. her sons a fine man ..but hes truck driver an being on the road he didn t really understand how fast an far it had gone..he ask me if we could watch his kids for the weekend..
 3hrs with mom an dad here is a blessing ..but for me to watch 3 small children an her too was gonna be to much. so,, much as i hated to as he s a fine man.. i realized he just didn t quite grasp what he was asking me to do..so thats why i thought it necessary to have a talk withim..the worst thing that could happen fpr me ..would be if i really got short an snappy with his kids.. theyed remember this ole mean man the rest of thier life..he was taken back by how fast this illness is working..
 its later now an shes forgotten it happened .. little blessings ,i guess of the ilness.thanks again william an all of you..
 on another note has anybody heard how dee an the ones in the middle of that ice storm in lower oklahoma an upper texas are getting along..weatherlady here says they got hit with a whale of an ice storm..
 hope yall getting by all right.. but i suspect most have lost power ..god bless yall. slim
 mikey i will man up .. what ever it takes.. i have my real strength holding she an i,, in his hand..
 id not be able to handle it with out my faith..so sorry for your loss brother..
 

[littlecanoe]

Slim,

There are a few scriptures that mean a great deal to me.  I went through a different, but hard, time this summer and needed a lot of support.  I was challenged and encouraged to stay in the Psalms.  Here is a passage from Proverbs that meant a lot.  During my trials I meditated on the truth here and still draw strength from the truth of these words.

Proverbs 3:
5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
and do not lean on your own understanding.
6 In all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make straight your paths.

May God grant the Grace for that which He has called you to do.
lc

[myronman3]

what william said, stay close to the Lord and lean on him hard.  my best to you.

[williamlayton]

I love you Slim---I really do.
We all will do as you ask--don't fail to talk.
Christ Jesus, You see Slim as he really is and his needs as they really are.
Shine your face on him and his wife. Shower them with mercy. Let them see your face, feel your love and mercy.
Comfort them in the time ahead and let them continually feel your presence.
Mercy, Sweet Jesus.
Blessings

[Brett]

Slim,
I will continue to pray that the Good Lord will hold you up and give you the strength you need to endure.  Remember that tho we are week He is strong and He hears and answers our prayers.   May God bless you in this time of distress. 

[slim rem 7]

nothing equal to your words .. it takes a secure man to say i love you to another man..
 i have love in my heart for all who have cared to share my plight ,at this time..god bless ,i love all you brothers an sisters.. slim shes sleeping now an looks prescious in the bedroom light..im blessed

[mirage1988]

I'm sorry Brother-
God never gives us more than he feels we can handle- even though it might not feel that way. Even his son asked that the cup be taken from him in his hour of dispair. Trust in him- he will not let you down.