KIDS. LAZY, OR PAMPERED.

[powderman]

HEATHER. Sounds like you have things pretty well under control, good for you. Another pet peeve of mine is seeing parents say, I'M COUNTING TO TEN, then you're gonna get it. I really get sick of hearing ONE, TWO, YOU LISTENING TO ME???, THREE, ya better start moving, four, etc. Simply conditions them to disobey. My grandson was being a brat one day I told him to stop, whatever it was, he ignored me til he got a smack on the butt. He was in shock, he said I didn't count to ten, I said, I don't count, do as you are told or go home. POWDERMAN. 

[Heather]

That's funny Powderman!  I don't count either.   My aunt is a social worker and when I had children at a young age she and I sat down and talked.  She told me that the #1 rule of parenting is say what you mean and mean what you say.  I don't make threats I'm not willing to keep.  If I tell my boys they will loose a game for a month if they do so and so I will keep it for a month maybe longer.  If I say I will spank them, then I spank them.  My boys know that if they misbehave they WILL be punished.  Does that mean that they don't misbehave...no of coarse not they are growing boys.  Does that mean that they get away with it...nope!  I know I sound very strict, but there are a few rules my boys are expected to live by.

If it's not yours don't touch it.

If you use something, put it back and clean up your mess.

Keep your toys put where they belong.  (and yes I give perfectly good toys away when they are left in the floor)

Do what I say the first time I say it.

Always be respectful and courteous to others.

By following these few simple rules they seem to stay out of trouble...for now anyway.    Oh and when they do get caught breaking one...they know which one and what their punishment is.  It is funny sometimes because they punish themselves.  Bradley brought me the cord to his tv the other day and said...sorry momma I was playing instead of cleaning.  Here is my tv cord...I will go clean now!   


Heather

[powderman]

Another thing parents do that irritates the crap out of me is giving cell phones to kids as young as 6 or 7. I can't count the times I've seen kids that young yakking away in stores or the mall. Bet those were real important conversations. Kids think they NEED them, but they don't. There have been several local teens killed while yakking on the phone or texting while driving. No reason for cell phones at school, or for them to drive to school. There was a marvelous invention when I was in high school, I believe they were called school buses. Yep, too much pampering and permissivenes by parents. POWDERMAN.