So Dee...seriously...you have the experience...do you think the 45acp is as good as we think and that the 125gr in the 357 is just better?? Or is the 45acp not as good as we think?
Honestly drdoug, I believe the 357 mag (not the 357sig) is the best of both worlds. In a stand up fight with no cover, the 45acp, or the 40 Smith are excellent rounds, but honestly neither will do anything the 357 magnum can't do, and MAYBE do it better. In a fight where cover is involved that is just barely cover, and more concealment, such as cars, penetrable walls, doors ect. the 357 magnum is far ahead.
Many base their choice on perceived firepower, and magazine capacity is their concern. I personally intend to avoid a fight if I can, and if I can't then most likely it will be over within 4 or 5 rounds, and in close, like in the average police fight, where 7 or 8 rounds TOTAL are fired by both the officer AND the perp COMBINED, and the distance is under 10 feet. Forget the Hollywood shootout.
When the double tap came out in training folks had been shooting each other successfully for a couple hundred years, and most don't realize it but, the double tap was put in place when the 9mm started entering police holsters. It had early on PROVEN, it was not a reliable stopper. I'm not against the double tap, I'm just sayin if you are afraid you caliber is so anemic you have to shot him twice perhaps you need to rethink your choice.
A 45acp ball and other configurations will reliably glance off many car windshields. I saw two bounce off a 78 Buick merely cracking the windshield and pitting it. A 357 mag will come out the back window unless it hits something else in between.
Everyone has to decide for themselves but, I personally want the power, and the statically proven one shot stopping power. It's really a personal choice, but for me, I hope I never fire another shot in anger, but I hope he misses, and it's a minor caliber he's shooting like the 9. But that's just me.
And before anyone jumps on the new super duper computer designed bullet of today? I don't care. A hole is a hole, and hollow points are totally reliant on body fluids to provide the hydraulics to make them work. I don't want to debate that, I just answered drdoug's question.