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now what?shes mad!
« on: May 09, 2010, 04:24:02 AM »
i thought i would take the family out for mothers day.  kind of a saprize and it just made her mad i did not ask her permission or something. she said well i have plans already and i do not want to go  >:(. so the start to mothers day is not off to a good start. she just left the drive way in a dust cloud and tears :'(. any suggestions on making the rest of the day better for her ???? as i am a lil ticked at the moment!  i am not the most thoughtful person so any help would be helpful and i would be greatful to try to save the day. 8)(i am about to grab the mosberg and go call in me a tom as that would help me but it is mothers day)                       
       
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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #1 on: May 09, 2010, 04:29:52 AM »
Poor guy. Sometimes we just cannot please them and dang sure cannot read thier minds. Hope it gets better for ya. Good Luck.
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« Reply #2 on: May 09, 2010, 04:43:02 AM »
Ron, are we talking about your mother, or your wife?  If it's your wife that left in a cloud of dust, she should get over it.  It's Mother's Day and unless you have a very strange family arrangement, your wife is not your mother.  I don't get it that some women think that just because they are a mother that they should be pandered to by everyone.  

Oh, oh--I'm probably in trouble now with Heather and any other gals that might be reading this.

Wait a minute; a woman that doesn't want to go out to dinner?  Ron, you might have good reason to worry.  Somethings not right here.
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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #3 on: May 09, 2010, 04:50:00 AM »
 ;D i think it is time for a few beers  rw
it is my wife


 BY THE WAY HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO ALL  MOTHERS
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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #4 on: May 09, 2010, 05:08:23 AM »
Does she go OFF like this often?
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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #5 on: May 09, 2010, 05:25:41 AM »
 no, she is normal most all of the time. plus very understanding as i mess up often.
i dont feel i messed up this time. i did not go buy a gun in stead of making the house payment.
i under stood that after the fact. but this is confussing to me.   ???
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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #6 on: May 09, 2010, 05:58:52 AM »
Quote from: magooch on May 09, 2010, 04:43:02 AM
Ron, are we talking about your mother, or your wife?  If it's your wife that left in a cloud of dust, she should get over it.  It's Mother's Day and unless you have a very strange family arrangement, your wife is not your mother.  I don't get it that some women think that just because they are a mother that they should be pandered to by everyone.  

Oh, oh--I'm probably in trouble now with Heather and any other gals that might be reading this.

Wait a minute; a woman that doesn't want to go out to dinner?  Ron, you might have good reason to worry.  Somethings not right here.


I feel the same way! Some say......"Well" Its a day we honor Mothers period. NO IT"S not. It was intended to honor our particular mother. My mother has passed, so now it's up to my children to honor my wife (their mother) on this day.Of course the flower vendors don't think so, it would cut into their sales. "JMHO"
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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #7 on: May 09, 2010, 06:26:28 AM »
how many out there did not get there wife something for mothers day?
how about some input on this?  if instead of going out for dinner i go spend the money and get my gun out of lay away?  i think it would be safer to thow gas on the fire myself, but i have done worse
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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #8 on: May 09, 2010, 07:07:33 AM »
Quote from: magooch on May 09, 2010, 04:43:02 AM
Ron, are we talking about your mother, or your wife?  If it's your wife that left in a cloud of dust, she should get over it.  It's Mother's Day and unless you have a very strange family arrangement, your wife is not your mother.  I don't get it that some women think that just because they are a mother that they should be pandered to by everyone.  

Oh, oh--I'm probably in trouble now with Heather and any other gals that might be reading this.


Not in trouble by me!  I agree with ya.  ;)  The only thought I might add would be if the children are too small to do anything then it is up to the Dad to point the little ones in the right direction.  Matt is having the boys do some secretive craft project for me, but I would NEVER expect him to buy me anything as I am not his mother.

Heather

BTW Ron tell your wife to get over it.  You were trying to do something nice for her and if she didn't like the way you went about it then it is her problem!  It should always be the thought that counts.  If you were thoughtful enough to try to do something nice then that should have been enough!
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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #9 on: May 09, 2010, 07:12:08 AM »
You see, we all get intagled in this when our kids are small and we as Dads have to get them suprises for Mom.I believe when the Kids are old enough its thier promblem.They florist and all other places make such a hiped up deal about it, we get stuck with every darn Holiday they can think of, spending hundreds over a year time frame.Now the wife and I just get ourselves something on each occasion if we desire, that way we dont end up with spent Household money that isnt wanted or will not be used ever.( wasted) The nation has seemed to have lost touch of the real meanings of most if not all holidays or special occasions. Each family has to work it out where there is a happy ending . Small things( sometimes homeade) ,a hug and a Big ole I Love You means a lot to my Mom.
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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #10 on: May 09, 2010, 07:17:00 AM »
heather   
thank you that makes me feel better alot better so thank you  8)
and by the way a stay at home mom is someone very special and important  something to be proud of 8) :D ;D
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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #11 on: May 09, 2010, 08:31:39 AM »
I have never asked my wife out to dinner on Mothers Day. Way to crowded, because thats what most everyone else does.
Ever since our kids were small, on Mothers Day, I go out and pick a bouquet of wild flowers along with some dogwood blooms. Sometimes add some blooms from the azaleas in the yard. It usually looks as good or better than flowers you could buy, and she really appreciates them. I would always pamper her because, she deserves a day to be pampered. I don't do these things because I feel that I have to. I do them for her because I want to.
She is not my Mother, but she is the Mother of my Sons.
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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #12 on: May 09, 2010, 09:13:40 AM »
 For openers .....you should have gotten her flowers!    That is the only way to start off that day of all days...  Better luck next year.   :)
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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #13 on: May 09, 2010, 09:43:45 AM »
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how many out there did not get there wife something for mothers day?

Well, I didn't get my wife anything for mothers day, but I used to help the kids get her something when they were too young. Now they all are grown up and all come over.  I did offer her breakfast this morning and ask if she wanted a back rub though and wished her a happy mothers day.  I have my own mom for mothers day. 

Maybe she is having a bad day, just keep your cool and tell her you were just trying hard to please her on a special day, if she raises a fuss for too long over it, not much you can do about that.  Just do your best to not return any anger, keep your cool.  I found out long ago one person being upset at a time is plenty. 

Good luck!
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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #14 on: May 09, 2010, 09:56:56 AM »
I helped my 11 year old daughter fix a nice steak dinner for my wife and my daughter wrote her a book of poems.  I agree my wife is not my mother (thank goodness) so it is more up to our daughter to make her feel special.
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« Reply #15 on: May 09, 2010, 10:01:04 AM »
I did not get a card or flowers, that is the kids job.  since he is now 21 it is not my place to remind or help.  I just take her to Brunch. 

I do think the kid is in trouble.  He was out partying with friends till 2AM.  He's still in bed, and there is no card or flowers on the table.  If he does not get up soon he will miss brunch as well. 
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« Reply #16 on: May 09, 2010, 11:27:16 AM »
i think you need to THANKyour wife for your kids at lest i do good luck
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« Reply #17 on: May 09, 2010, 11:57:58 AM »
I have no tolerance for such nonsense from females.

I'd make a token attempt to discover her issue, but after that was resolved to the limit of my patience I'd tell her that "I tried to be nice, but from now on I'll be celebrating Mother's Day with my mother if I celebrate it with anyone."

And that is what I would do, and have done.

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« Reply #18 on: May 09, 2010, 12:19:34 PM »
Being I am with the second wife and we have no kidlets, I am spared this thing.
I do recall a friend of mine who tried this " You aren't MY mother" ................. O N C E !!
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« Reply #19 on: May 09, 2010, 12:21:03 PM »
Have a few beers,then go buy a new gun. Atleast then she might have a good reason for being mad.
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« Reply #20 on: May 09, 2010, 02:24:35 PM »
yup, if you tried taking her out and she got mad about that, you have alot bigger problems than you know.    there is only one reason on this planet that a woman would not want to be spoiled a little by her loved ones.     
  hope the rest of your day goes better.   and, i would advise against drinking anything but water if there is friction of any sort.   best of luck to ya.   :-\
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« Reply #21 on: May 09, 2010, 03:11:17 PM »
I take my wife to eat---I bought cards and gifts for the kids to give her when they were younger.
Now days The kids take us to eat-and her a gift.
I usually end up paying for the meal.
I will admit that women can be strangeand often do not know what it is they want. I will also admit that women think men can read their minds.
Don't get upset until she tells you what it is you did wrong--and i will guarentee you did something wrong, in her mind at least.
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« Reply #22 on: May 09, 2010, 09:24:11 PM »
Mothers day, 
Hot chocolate when she wakes up, a half hour later fresh croissants, juice, milk, home fries, crisp thick sliced bacon, eggs scrambled soft, home made apricot jam and the Sunday paper. I am a far better cook than any restraunt or casino around here. This is the start of Mother's day here and I generally make sure the kids are primed to to call today and her birthday.  Dinner was baked salmon filets in onions and butter, a wilted lettuce salad and surdough bread. Desert was peaches and strawberries in chilled wine.  A good day for me and a chance to say I appreciate her.  looking forward to cooking for her and the kids on her birthday at the end of the month. 

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« Reply #23 on: May 09, 2010, 10:00:04 PM »
I'd say Blindhari is on the right track but going out to eat is a fine gesture, as long as it wasn't the lowest dive in town.

Myronman is right - stay away from the beer. You don't need that to cloud the issue. Could that be the issue?

Try real hard to stay calm and cool even tho its understandable you'd feel ticke. Might I suggest you carefully ask her what the problem was and REALLY listen until she quits talking?

I'm wondering if you should have asked her on Friday what she really wanted to do for the day? Might be worth a try.

I brought flowers home on Friday with a card. GOTTA have the card for her even tho I hate shopping for them. I got a couple small but fancy chocolate bars for the boys to give her.
One boy has been working on a card at Sunday School. The other is an ornery clod and refuses to do anything so I try to cover for him.

Not bragging, just trying to help and I'm trying to show my boys (12, 9) the best way I know to do this.

Oh and had a new coffee grinder for her today. Usually I am supposed to avoid appliances but her grinder broke last week. And she needs her morning fancy coffee. Can't drink it myself anymore.
Got some other stuff coming in the mail too.

The men and boys of our church and another church nearby joined forces to cook up a Lady's brunch today. Spent most of Sat afternoon setting up a sausage, potato, egg and cheese casseroule {spelling??}, fruit soup, coffee, English muffins, butter, tea and juice. Oh and the ladies could take home a rose from those on each table. Then we all served them today after church and did all the dishes. All the ladies got to sit and visit together for 2-3 hrs and seemed most happy.
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« Reply #24 on: May 10, 2010, 01:45:10 AM »
I've been through that bs before and it is pure manipulation - the rejection, denial, spinning wheels and clouds of dust.  Pure egocentric manipulation and nothing more than a blatant and thoroughly transparent attempt at making you submissive to her control and demands.

Give her one option - tell her if she ever pulls that kind of crap again she can just keep going right on down to the divorce court, or change her attitude.  You need that kind of crap like you need veneral disease.  The only way to deal with a prima donna is to step on them hard - it's too bad you let her get away without straightening her butt out early on.  jmtcw.
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« Reply #25 on: May 10, 2010, 01:54:06 AM »
guess id have to agree with mikey.yu can kiss her ass to try to make her happy or find a adult woman to share life with.
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« Reply #26 on: May 10, 2010, 02:24:02 AM »
+1 unless there is a tragic history involved like something with her mother or a child . No need to open that can of worms here just be aware of it.
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« Reply #27 on: May 10, 2010, 03:06:52 AM »
thanks to all
 as it turned out i grabbed my pellet gun and 1 12 pack and went to my hunting house. ???
she came out to see what my problem was at 6 pm. we talked and she claimed it to be her mom came down on her and i did not seem to care (i did listen to her) i just asked her to go for breckfest and said happy mothers day and told her that i still loved her.
  to make up for sundays blunder i offered to buy her the chicken food for her chickens on monday and that was enough to make her happy. :o
magooch
i know you said the same thing heather did i guess it sounded better to me comming from a lady and i am sorry for not relizing that at the time but thank you for the good advise. :-[

ohhh by the way she was on the ground by the ladder to my h.h. and she spotted some mushrooms (morels) i think that is what made her happy
any how thanks again. ;D ;D                  rw
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« Reply #28 on: May 10, 2010, 03:51:06 AM »
This coming September marks two anniversaries around our house. On Sep. 3 we'll have been married 45 years and on Sep. 28 I will have been retired for 15 years. We long ago got over the silliness of pretending she's my mom or me her dad on mother's and father's days.

Yesterday in addition to being mother's day was our youngest son Phil's 36 birthday. He lives with us here and always will. On our birthday we each get to chose what we want for the meal that day. This time Phil wanted a hamburger and a hotdog. Faye wanted them cooked on the smoker so that was my job. I fired up the Brinkman Gourmet smoker and cooked up some charcoal flavored burgers and dogs and we had a very good but simple meal at home. Phil wanted chocolate cake which is his favorite and is barely tolerable by me and Faye now being on a diabetic diet eats no cake. Phil will get the vast majority of that one.

It was established here a lot of years ago that on mother's day it is up to the three boys to do whatever they think right on that day for her as she's not my mother and mine is long dead so I have no living mother to do something for. Same goes for father's dad.

Faye got a call from Matt to wish her a happy mother's day and Phil a happy birthday. I was taking a nap at the time. Bobby came over while I was napping to give her a card and wish her a happy mother's day. Dunno if he wished Phil a happy birthday or not really. Phil wished her a happy mother's day after he woke her up with the noise he was making when he got up after she wished him a happy birthday and reminded him there was something else going on in addition to his birthday. ;D

It was fairly typical of how we handle such days around here. We buy nothing special on such days and instead get what we need and some times what we want if the money is there during the year as the need or desire comes up.

As to flowers we have thousands and thousands of them. We have more and larger flower beds here than the vast majority of folks in this country and in fact just keeping the weeds out is a full time job around here there are so many. So Faye has no shortage of flowers on mother's day or any other day once the weather warms.

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Re: now what?shes mad!
« Reply #29 on: May 10, 2010, 04:26:11 AM »
I took my daughter to the store and she picked out a mothers day gift for my wife. I got my wife some flowers and then fixed her a Rib eye dinner. I did this because I love her and to show her I really appreciate her being the mother of my daughter. I didnt have to do it and she knows it and wouldnt be upset it I didnt. I totally forgot it last year and no fuss.
I did forget her birthday a few years ago and that was a totally different story. She was like your wife on that one. :)
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