You probably will not find a bullet mold that is .001" oversized based on the measurements from your slugs. The .001" is a "rule of thumb". The .459" measurement you got, for example, is after the bullet "bulked up" to fill the grooves of the rifling. Any good .457 or .458 bullet mold will do the trick for you, just vary the hardness or softness of the alloy to get the best accuracy. Remember that the bullet's base tends to spread out when you light the fire, thus filling up the rifling.
I'm a big fan of the 520gr. Lyman 457125 cast with 20/1 pure lead and tin. That's probably a little harder than wheel weights (not sure), but wheel weights will probably work fine for you with almost any good bullet mold.