"From experience of actual shooting. If the bullet weight goes up the recoil goes up."Yup, that's how it feels for me. Bigger bullets thump more than smaller ones, even smaller ones going faster.
I'll throw another wrench in the mix;
Is there a differeance between felt re-coil and perceived re-coil ? What part of the mind plays a factor.
I did this with my boy years back with his ML when he became "worried" about recoil.
Long story short, he spent an entire season happily and accurately shooting 70grns of 2f, it wasn't until the following year when I moved him into a tighter patched ball combo and we reworked the load that he found out how much he was shooting.