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Thinking of Mary
« on: December 19, 2010, 10:55:59 AM »
The post about giving at this time of year caused me to start thinking about Mary.  Then I breakdown and cry, thinking about how things could have been differant if only something small had been differant years ago.

Back in 1971 while going to University Of Alaska, Fairbanks.  I met a young woman named Mary.  She was tall, vibrant, dark brown hair, brown eyes, and one of the most bubbly personalities you could meet.  We dated for several months, and we became very close, and intamate.  One thing I did learn about Mary was she was real paranoid about Fairbanks flooding.  She had been caught in the flood waters of the 68 flood and almost drown.  

I also met Leanna during that time.  Leanna was a hot little red head, with a body to kill for.  I let myself be drawn away from Mary, and ended up marrying Leanna.  I then left Alaska, often thinking of Mary.  I especially thought of Mary when three years later Leanna and I got divorced.  But Mary was in the past and I had no way of knowing what had happened to her.

I met Michelle in Pheonix and we got married in 1977.  In 1985 Michelle and I was reassigned to Eielson AFB here in Alaska.  One day I saw this old bag lady, pushing a shopping cart, wearing an orange Life Vest.  The type that goes over your head and keeps you on your back with your head above water.  I thought there goes a real Loon.  I retired and we moved away in 1989.  We returned to Fairbanks when Michelle retired in 1996.  Now I worked in Fairbanks and I saw the old bag lady more and more as I spent more time in Fairbanks.  I saw her getting into confrontations with drunks, and other street people.  I asked who she was but no one seemed to know or care.  all they could tell me was that she did not talk.  I sort of felt sorry for her, wondering what had happened to her to cause her to be in that sort of shape.

Back five years ago, during the winter just before Christmas, I was in town and saw a commotion going on in the doorway of a business.  I went over to the area and there lay the old bag lady.  She had been lying in the cold for many hours, and was suffering from hypothermia.  I took my coat off and put it around her while waiting for an ambulance.  I knelt there and talked to her while we waited, trying to keep her concious.  The old lady never said a word.  Finally the ambulance arrived, and the ambulance crew started calling her Mary.  At that point it had no meaning to me.  As they got her ready to load on the ambulance she screamed "stop".  The ambulance crew was shocked, they had never heard her speak before.  Mary held out her arm to me, I moved close and she said, "Thank you Roggie" then laid back and went to sleep.  I was confussed, I had not told her my real name and no one calls me that anymore, how did she know me?  Then it hit me who she was.  I followed the ambulance to the hospital, but Mary did not survive the trip.

I wonder if I had not met Leanna, or had not fallen head over heels for her, what would Mary's life have been like?      
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Re: Thinking of Mary
« Reply #1 on: December 19, 2010, 12:11:45 PM »
SOURDOUGH. Thank you for sharing that wonderful story my friend. You can't change the past and it does no good to wonder, what if?? I'd be willing to bet that Mary touched more lives than you could ever imagine. God had a purpose for her, the same as he has for you. We can't always understand but still we must accept what God has planned for us. Prayer sent friend. Charlie.  :( :( :( :( :( :(
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Re: Thinking of Mary
« Reply #2 on: December 19, 2010, 01:19:50 PM »
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Re: Thinking of Mary
« Reply #3 on: December 19, 2010, 06:36:15 PM »
Sourdough,

I know what it is like to lose a special someone.  I will keep my comments brief, as it is painful to talk of her.   My college sweetheart's name was Grace, a petite blonde with a gorgeous smile, sunny disposition, but a quiet demeanor.    She was the kind of girl that comes along once in a thousand years.  We were together for two wonderful years, and we graduated college together.   I was going to ask her to marry me, but decided to wait for the right moment; I was an incurable romantic in college.   I waited too long, as events tell the tale.   I got tired of waiting and decided to ask her on Christmas Eve.   We had gone shopping on the 23rd and I had the ring in my pocket all day.    That was the last time I saw her alive.   She died in a car accident on 23 December 1993.   It is now 17 years later, and I still miss her.

I honor her memory every year on 23 December.  Let us each raise our glass to absent friends, in memory still bright.

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Re: Thinking of Mary
« Reply #4 on: December 19, 2010, 08:24:30 PM »
Cabin4:  Mary was very much a real person.  What had happened to her in the 15 or so years after I had last seen her till I saw her running around with her life vest, I have no idea.  What happened to her parents, or any other relatives I have no idea.

The shock of not realizing who she was until she was lying there dying has been a hard one to take.  If I had known who she was the first time I saw her could I have made a differance in her life.  Could I have prevented her from freezing to death on that lonely street. 

God only knows why I did not find out sooner.
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Re: Thinking of Mary
« Reply #5 on: December 19, 2010, 11:55:23 PM »
You have hinted at Mary in another thread, sometimes ago.
I am sorry for your loss---and it is very close and personal.
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Re: Thinking of Mary
« Reply #6 on: December 20, 2010, 01:10:21 AM »
 I think of Mary a lot too williamlayton. She was my wife of 28 years when she passed away in 2006. From what i think was a screwed up heart transplant. I guess it was a blessing. She was in a coma for 13 months. Her hands were clenched closed in a fist. Lets just say the shtf when my daughter pried her fingers open and found that her nails had grown into the palms of her hands. Sorry about my rant. :(.  I still get upset when i think of what went on in that hospital in those 13 months.

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Re: Thinking of Mary
« Reply #7 on: December 20, 2010, 07:47:01 AM »
We could all help someone like Mary whether we knew them or not.

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