Author Topic: My love, my wife, my soulmate... (Read 13410 times)

Double D · « **on:** April 05, 2011, 02:36:34 PM »

Gentlemen, I lost my best friend this past Sunday. My lovely wife of 44 years, Katherine died in my arms of sudden respiratory and cardiac failure. I started CPR and kept it going until the paramedics arrived. They took her to the hospital but it was just too late. The Doctor told me that she was gone before I could start CPR.

My heart is broken. We met two weeks before I graduated from high school. The day after I graduated I went to Marine Corps boot camp. When I returned home on boot leave three months later we married. We have two wonderful children together. Anyone who knows us, knows we are a pair.

We did everything together. She was my favorite hunting partner. We have traveled together to 48 of the 50 American states The only states we have not been to are Alaska and Missouri.. We have been to Macedonia, Bulgaria, Greece, Canada, Mexico and South Africa together.

Yesterday I was in shock and today I am grieving. We depended on and supported each other so much it is difficult to think about life without her. I will adjust but it will never be perfect without her. There is a hole in my heart. Believe me when I say this, this is message tear stained.

Right now I am in Virginia staying with our Friends Bob and Becky. Bob is known here a .303SMLE. They have been a great comfort and good friends.

Katherine and I are on a two month vacation traveling the country seeing the sights and visiting family and friends. Our first vacation trip since I retired. We are about 4 weeks into that trip. My inclination is, after I pick up her ashes, put them the front seat and finish the trip. I know her, and I know that is what she would want me to do. Next week we were supposed to go to the Statue of Liberty, she had always wanted to see it. My daughter and granddaughter are going meet me there and we are going to carry out my loves wishes. Right now I do not know about going to the Easton shoot. I think she would want me too. She would be in my heart when we fire the volley in honor Queen Victoria and in memory of those have gone before us.

I will travel from there to my Daughters home in Illinois and spend a few weeks with her as was our plans. Then head home to Montana. My son will join me for that leg of the trip home. On the trip home we had planned on swing down to go through Missouri and we are going to do just that. She will be with us

I have some major adjusting to do and I hope you guys will bear with me.

Here is a picture of her with a deer she took. This a favorite of mine and hers and it was her most favorite hunting story.

Go with my god love, go with God.

336SC · « **Reply #1 on:** April 05, 2011, 03:29:00 PM »

Sorry for your terrible loss. My high school sweetheart and I will be married 40 years this coming October and I too can't imagine my life without her. You'lll be in my prayers tonight!
336SC

ironglow · « **Reply #2 on:** April 05, 2011, 03:39:19 PM »

My heart goes out to you Double D... It must be a very traumatic time.. May God bring his grace and comfort to you.. It sure looks like she was a complete partner, wife and best friend..

The wife and I have a similar story, high school sweethearts..married while I was in Army, some 55 years ago, come August !
Her health is in sharp decline but at our age, only the Lord knows who goes first and who remains..but we will both walk with Him into the sunset..

bobg · « **Reply #3 on:** April 05, 2011, 03:53:41 PM »

Very sorry for your lose. Believe me i know the feeling. Lost my wife 5 years ago.

torpedoman · « **Reply #4 on:** April 05, 2011, 04:08:51 PM »

Deeply sorry to hear of your loss. I think your plan is a good one. Go with god.

AtlLaw · « **Reply #5 on:** April 05, 2011, 06:09:57 PM »

My heart is breaking for you Doug. God love and keep you.

quickdtoo · « **Reply #6 on:** April 05, 2011, 06:32:42 PM »

I'm so sorry, our condolences and prayers are with you and your family.

Tim

Graybeard · « **Reply #7 on:** April 05, 2011, 07:51:14 PM »

My condolences to you on the loss of your wife and best friend. Our prayers are with you in this most troubling of times.

Steelbanger · « **Reply #8 on:** April 06, 2011, 01:22:05 AM »

Double D,

May God carry you in this time of loss. I'll offer prayers for you to help with the adjustment of being alone. I know exactly how hard it is to lose your love as my wife of almost 50 years was taken in November 2009. I am still trying to adjust. This whole experience has brought me closer to God than I have ever been and I trust in Him for everything as He's always there whenever I need to talk.

With deepest sympathy, Frank

gypsyman · « **Reply #9 on:** April 06, 2011, 02:49:36 AM »

DoubleD, know that her soul is next to God, and her spirit is with you forever. Very sorry for your loss, and will pray for both. gypsyman

cwlongshot · « **Reply #10 on:** April 06, 2011, 03:22:40 AM »

Man I hate to read these, but I am GLAD you shared. Its a very important part in the healing. My deepest and sinceriest condolences to you and your children.

Sounds like she was dearly loved and will be dearly missed. But she will be waiting for you.

God bless,
CW

Spanky · « **Reply #11 on:** April 06, 2011, 09:28:52 PM »

Very sorry for your loss.
This is undoubtedly the toughest time of your life but try to find comfort in the fact that she's in the hands of the Lord and when your time comes she will be there to meet you.
God bless you and your family.

Spanky

AfricanHandgunner · « **Reply #12 on:** April 08, 2011, 04:33:02 AM »

I am very sorry to hear of your loss. My wife and I have been married for 30 years, and I can't even imagine life without her.

Double D · « **Reply #13 on:** April 10, 2011, 04:49:48 AM »

Thank you gentlemen for a your kind words, they are comforting. It is even more comforting to see so many folks who have made marriage a commitment. So many of the younger generation participate in the wife of the month club.

Please indulge me as I post more pictures of her.

She could shoot also.

Her rifle, I built

DEACONLLB · « **Reply #14 on:** April 10, 2011, 08:08:43 AM »

Sorry to read of your loss, may God comfort you as you continue your trip and it is also good to see the family support that you have. My wife and I have been married for 56 years, hard to even think of being without her.

Deaconllb

stimpylu32 · « **Reply #15 on:** April 10, 2011, 08:56:51 AM »

DD

It truly saddens me to hear of your loss , a great life long friend is hard enough to find , let alone loose , take heart in the fact that she is in a better place and will be waiting for you till you can meet again , keep close to family & friends as they WILL help you through this time of sorrow .

We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers .

Richard

Peshtigo71 · « **Reply #16 on:** April 12, 2011, 05:10:15 PM »

DoubleD, I can't add any more than what's been said. It's so easy to suffer from a lack of words at a time like this. I'm so sorry to read of your loss. Prayers for your healing and happy memories that will bring a smile to your face. Peshtigo71

OldSchoolRanger · « **Reply #17 on:** April 14, 2011, 04:39:03 AM »

DoubleD,

I know that there is nothing I can say to console you. I will say a prayer for her, and hope that you will find solace in your fond & loving memories, of your wife.

OldSchool

shaleetoo · « **Reply #18 on:** April 14, 2011, 05:57:16 AM »

I am so sorry for your loss. I just lost the love of my life last October. I still look for him when I wake up. Your wife sounds wonderful and no one can take your memories from you. Once I got back to our home, I felt a tremendous peace because I knew he was here with me. I wish you the same.

Sharon

Dixie Dude · « **Reply #19 on:** April 14, 2011, 06:11:41 AM »

Prayers for comfort sent.

oldsoldja · « **Reply #20 on:** April 14, 2011, 03:00:10 PM »

Im sorry for your loss, you were very fortunate in your life with her, and you sound like a very kind soul so I know she was lucky to have you too. Youll still talk to her everyday and youll feel her with you where ever you go. I hope your pain is short and your health stays strong. Ive been with my soulmate 38 years, I feel for you.

jshootr · « **Reply #21 on:** April 14, 2011, 03:09:51 PM »

May the good Lord watch over her.
Peace be with you my brother.

I lost my wife of 38 years last July, I can relate

Jerry

drdougrx · « **Reply #22 on:** April 15, 2011, 08:08:18 AM »

How horrible....from my family to yours, we are very, very sorry. May she rest in peace.

The Hermit · « **Reply #23 on:** April 15, 2011, 02:37:05 PM »

My sincere condolences to you my friend. Having lost my Donna in 2005, I can emphasize with you. Both of you will be in my prayers tonight. Remember that a part of her lives on in you forever. Time will not change that. God bless.

The Hermit

Double D · « **Reply #24 on:** April 16, 2011, 02:04:07 AM »

A promise kept....

drdougrx · « **Reply #25 on:** April 16, 2011, 05:16:09 AM »

Good for you....you've been an inspiration to us all!!!

rugerred · « **Reply #26 on:** April 18, 2011, 01:15:45 PM »

My deepest sympathy . God watch over you on your journey.Godspeed

oldsoldja · « **Reply #27 on:** April 18, 2011, 02:55:03 PM »

Im sure shes glad you did.

No hurt survives for long without our help, she said & then she kissed me & sent me out to play again for the rest of my life. ~ Brian Andreas

Cabin4 · « **Reply #28 on:** April 18, 2011, 04:24:29 PM »

Very sorry to hear about your huge loss. Great story coupled with the pictures tell us volumes about your life with her. God bless you both. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

XxLT250RxX · « **Reply #29 on:** April 20, 2011, 06:06:12 PM »

I just found this. Sooooo Sorry. I can imagine what you are going through.