Author Topic: Its A Sad Day . . . . (Read 745 times)

Fred McIntire · « **on:** March 14, 2012, 02:38:33 PM »

I am deeply hurt, and saddened, by the separation of my wife and I today. I gave so much to our marriage only to be facing this situation today. As I look around, the house seems so empty and without a soul. There’s just me and a cat named “Mouse” that I rescued about 10 years ago. So very, very sad . . . .

Swampman · « **Reply #1 on:** March 14, 2012, 03:15:10 PM »

I'll pray for you Fred.

Sourdough · « **Reply #2 on:** March 14, 2012, 03:21:22 PM »

Fred, I know your pain. Went through that myself many years ago. We could not work it and ended up divorced. I did not handle it well, went off the deep end sort of. Never thought of doing away with my self, I like me too much. But did have bad thoughts about her family. Just thoughts I never would have done anything. I had put my all into that union, and I was devastated. I felt I loved her so much, I just could not stand to be without her. Ended up on the Psych Ward, took some doing, but I got over it.

Met a wonderful woman after that and started all over. Again built a beautiful life with a woman. Admit it took years before I truly trusted her and she me, but it's now been 35 years, and I would not go back and change anything.

As many people told me, "Life Goes On".

ceadersavage2 · « **Reply #3 on:** March 14, 2012, 03:30:56 PM »

Yes life goes on The best thing to do is keep busie an keep doing thing you like to do . It truely hurts it does .take a trip if you can be around friends helps also . man Keep your chin up face in the wind don't look back .Good luck to you

Curtis · « **Reply #4 on:** March 14, 2012, 03:34:56 PM »

Been there, Fred. Fourteen years ago, but I still remember the hurt and sadness. Trying to carry on and walking through Wal-Mart in a daze and on the edge of tears. Screaming in the car where no one can hear you helps. It gets better though. In the mean time, hang in there.

Curtis

CannonKrazy · « **Reply #5 on:** March 14, 2012, 04:12:01 PM »

Eleven years myself. It's a long road back to a normal life. Takes time to find yourself again. Depend on friends and family for a good laugh or an open ear.

DalesCarpentry · « **Reply #6 on:** March 14, 2012, 04:32:30 PM »

I can relate to this very well. My wife and I of 18 years split up last summer. The hardest thing is not being around my daughter that is going to turn 16 years old next Tuesday. I myself am still having a hard time of it but I'm sure it will pass with time. Just try to keep busy and don't think to hard on it. That's what I'm trying to do. Take care Dale

powderman · « **Reply #7 on:** March 14, 2012, 04:39:05 PM »

FRED. Prayer sent friend. POWDERMAN.

redneckly33 · « **Reply #8 on:** March 14, 2012, 08:05:14 PM »

I am now 62 years of age. I had this happen to me at the ripe Ole Age of 20. She was my Highschool Sweetheart. We married straight out of Highschool. We lost a child prematurely at 7 1/2 months. I will take full responsibility for it. I grieved this Baby as bad as she did. I didn't understand the grief she was feeling. I looked forward, not back. Within 8 months, we were seperated and within a year, we were divorced. I thought I was going to die. Eventually, I got over it and remarried. I went on to have two Sons of my own. Now I have 2 Grandsons. My first Wife was never able to have Children of her own. I still feel sorry for Her to this day. I've only seen her once in the last 40 years. The point of this story, is to tell you, there is light at the end of the Tunnel. Things will only get better as Time eventually heals Ole Scars. I will keep you in my Prayers.

Redneckly

Duke0313 · « **Reply #9 on:** March 14, 2012, 09:10:08 PM »

Prayers and blessings. Time makes it easier. But for goodness sake, DO NOT just sit around the house and dwell on the whole thing!
Get out with good friends and explore the world around you or make new friends and explore new interests. A door has closed in your life but you may well find that many other doors have just opened up for you!
Good Luck!

AR50shooter · « **Reply #10 on:** March 15, 2012, 04:46:20 AM »

Alot of us have been there,it's not easy. Marriage is something most people put there heart and soul in. And to have it not work is really hard. Sometimes it makes you feel like a failure. Just remember, you're not. You never know what or who is around the next corner. I met my second wife just by accident one day. I was bored and went for a ride on my motorcycle. I stopped to take a short break at a friends business.There she was, and we have been together almost since that day. Life is funny sometimes, especially when you least expect it. I had no intention of getting into another relationship or even casual dating, but something felt really different that day. Looking back, I wouldn't change anything. It's just to bad we can't see the reality of things in advance. Keep your head high and remember friends and family can always bring a smile to your face and a warm feeling in your heart. God Bless!!

victorcharlie · « **Reply #11 on:** March 16, 2012, 03:56:25 PM »

Hey Fred, you still here? Listen, Had this happen to me 35 years or so ago. Dang near killed me.

Then I met the most wonderful woman.....been with her 27 years now...

Hang in there, trust me, it'll get better.

Swift One · « **Reply #12 on:** March 16, 2012, 04:48:20 PM »

Ive been through two of them. There is nothing fun about it.

LONGTOM · « **Reply #13 on:** March 17, 2012, 02:03:26 AM »

Having never been through any of this except maybe a girlfriend or two when I was young, (doesn't come close to what you are going through) I can't offer much guideance except to say don't forget to pray for yourself.
Nothing wrong with asking for a little help from the good Lord in times like these.
I am sure you will get through this in time, don't give up.
Prayers your way my friend.

LONGTOM

Rodland · « **Reply #14 on:** March 17, 2012, 03:50:10 AM »

Prayers coming your way friend. If ya need to talk PM me. I am a good listener, not full of advice, but a good listener.

BBF · « **Reply #15 on:** March 17, 2012, 05:38:48 AM »

Depending on your age and not making light of this, it helps getting a girlfriend.

Fred McIntire · « **Reply #16 on:** March 29, 2012, 04:05:26 PM »

I just wanted to check in and say "Thank You" to everyone for their prayers, thoughts, support, and encouragement during this difficult time.

I'm doing okay. I still wish we weren't going through this; however, it is what it is. I talked to TopperT tonight on the phone. He and I agreed that there are such a good group of people here on GBO. I couldn't ask to be in better company.

Again, "Thank You" so much.

Fred

LONGTOM · « **Reply #17 on:** March 29, 2012, 05:40:53 PM »

Glad to hear you are coping with the problem you have.
Keep your chin up and just continue on with life.

LONGTOM

yellowtail3 · « **Reply #18 on:** March 29, 2012, 06:15:10 PM »

Hang in there, Fred. I think others are right when they say time makes a difference; I'm hoping that's so. I'm four years into a separation. For first two I hoped she'd change her mind, next two just kind of immobile. Now it's finalizing, and it's not done... but I'm seeing some light that indicates that yes, things do get better. My daughters love me, I love them, and it's going to get better.

I believe it will for you too, brother..

KIMBER45 · « **Reply #19 on:** March 30, 2012, 12:45:56 AM »

It happened to me after 22 years of marriage. It was very hard at first. Hang in there. It WILL get better with time. I dated no one for over 2 years. Had to get my head on straight and spent alot of time with friends and by myself. I promised my friends I would never marry. My friend reminded me that never is a long time. I met a women and fell in love and got married. I'm happier now than I ever have been. I even sent my exwife a thank you card for divorcing me. Bottom line, it's real tough going , but it DOES get easier with time. Hang in there.