PATTYS MOM.

[powderman]

Went to visit Pattys Mom again early Friday morning as she was not doing well at all. She was apparently weaker than a few days before when we were there. She quit eating last Thurs and we had to push the fluids. We stayed at her house at night. She died this evening about 6:25 pm. Her kidneys had shut down but she refused dialysis and said no more hospitols. She would have been 90 years old in Sept. WE could have sent her to the hosp but granted her wish. The head nurse said she believed she was in pain even though she wasn't talking and reccomended morphine to relax her and ease the pain. We knew that it would likely let her die quicker but we agreed to it because nobody wanted her to die in pain. The family voted, only 1 said NO. She started a fight at her Moms death bed that got her Mom all upset, but thats what she does. We only allowed her brothers and her children and spouses to visit. Toward the end I started taking her grandkids in 1 at a time because they loved her very deeply and it worked out well. 2 of Pattys sisters had stayed night and day with her for over 6 weeks, one even longer than that. Thurs we were at a funeral home for a good friend, been a long week. Later. Charlie. 

[Duke0313]

Prayers and blessing to you and yours.

[P.A. Myers]

I always ask our Father to ease the suffering, whatever form that takes. I ask for love and wisdom to deal with the gathering storm. I ask for strength so I can be strong for others and be strong for myself.

                                God Bless,    P.A.

[BUGEYE]

prayers sent for all the family.

[SwampThing762]

Charlie,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.   

Jim

[powderman]

Some of you will remember me talking about Mrs Dianne Petty, the old black lady that moaned and cried out so much, the one I prayed over 2 mo ago. When we  got there Fri I looked into her room and saw her looking around and moving her hands and she started laughing, probably many years ago back in time. Her rm is restricted and I'm not family so I didn't go in but the past 4 days I'd always look in on her and she was quiet, til yesterday. Yesterday she hollered off and on most of the day. Before we left, after Mom died, I told a nurse I wanted to go in to see her and she let me, even though it was restricted. Diane was really moaning when We went in. The nurse said that she'd wait outside and to take my time. I stroked her forehead brushing her hair back and took her hand all the while talking to her. She quieted dwn as she responded to my voice and touch. I called her by name and talked a bit then prayed for her, then kissed her on the forehead as I left. She was still quiet when we left. Through all the trouble and sorrow I feel blessed by having met Diane Petty. She will always have a place in my heart. POWDERMAN. 

[powderman]

Funeral home all day tomorrow, funeral Sat. Boy am I dreading this. POWDERMAN. 

[FourBee]

Hi Charlie:
Hope you all are doing well.  Sending you my belated condolences. 

[drdougrx]

Our condolences from ours to yours Charlie.  Our family went through much the same decisions with both of my in-laws regarding the use of Morphine to ease the pain and the transition.  It is the right thing to do.  Hang in...