Author Topic: Moms in bad shape. (Read 1356 times)

powderman · « **on:** August 02, 2012, 08:42:44 AM »

We are headed to ILL in the morning. Mom was in the hospitol and got out last week but back in yesterday with an irregular heartbeat and fluid around her heart again. She's very weak and can't walk now. Hopefully be back Mon with good news, may not be, depends on what happens in the next few days. I talked to her a bit today and she didn't sound very positive, she said she didn't think she was going to come through it this time. Prayers appreciated. I put this here instead of the prayer forum because few go there and Mom needs the prayers. POWDERMAN.

AtlLaw · « **Reply #1 on:** August 03, 2012, 03:05:26 AM »

She's still in mine Charlie.

guzzijohn · « **Reply #2 on:** August 03, 2012, 03:12:50 AM »

Charlie,
I don't know the age of your mother but mine is 98 1/2 with significant dementia and is wheelchair bound. over the last few years there have been at least three times that we thought "this is it" and she would be passing soon but she always manages to bounce back. So what I am trying to say is that it is in God's hands, be there for her and you may be surprised how long she will hang in there. Wish her the best.
GuzziJohn

Conan The Librarian · « **Reply #3 on:** August 03, 2012, 05:10:29 AM »

Guzzi's post is a good one. We have similar experience. We just hope for stability and that our relative is able to get some joy out of each day.

Best wishes to all those involved. As you know all too well, it affects the whole family and everybody plays a role.

SwampThing762 · « **Reply #4 on:** August 03, 2012, 06:10:22 AM »

Prayers still coming your way, Charlie.

ST762

m-g Willy · « **Reply #5 on:** August 03, 2012, 06:32:20 AM »

We will keep her in our prayers at our house.

kennyd · « **Reply #6 on:** August 05, 2012, 08:33:49 AM »

Same. It seems you are being run over lately. Remember your friends on here care; as well as those closer to you.
Here's hoping for peace to come to you and yours.

Kenny

Tommyt · « **Reply #7 on:** August 05, 2012, 01:55:58 PM »

Prayers for your mom and better times for your family

Tommyt

DalesCarpentry · « **Reply #8 on:** August 05, 2012, 02:03:01 PM »

She will be in my thoughts and prayers also. Take care buddy. Dale

powderman · « **Reply #9 on:** August 05, 2012, 03:46:36 PM »

Moms getting weaker, 87 years old, she has congestive heart failure, doesn't want to eat, when she does it upsets her stomach. She doesn't think she'll make it out of there alive, I'm not so sure either. The doc says he cannont get her heart back in rythm no matter what he tries. They are going to remove fluid from one lung tomorrow, the other Tues. She said that if the fluid doesn't stop coming back that she is not going to have it removed anymore because it is too painful. Last time they removed two liters.
One the way up I hit a chunk of semi tire and it busted something underneath and now it sounds like an ol rattletrap. Getting oil chgd tomorrow and find out what is wrong underneath, afraid to drive it much like it is and Mom issists I get it fixed NOW. After I hit it I noticed that you can't even go a mile without retread crap all over the hwy. I reckon we'll be here a spell. Thanks for the prayers, we need every one of them. The int service with Pattys laptop is the pits. I've tried over and over to send this, I'll keep trying. Charlie. Sad

Duke0313 · « **Reply #10 on:** August 06, 2012, 10:31:13 PM »

Prayers, prayers and more prayers!!!

RevJim · « **Reply #11 on:** August 07, 2012, 04:21:48 AM »

My Mom is 87 also, slight dimensia, etc, I hear your cry my friend, prayers for you and your family.

powderman · « **Reply #12 on:** August 09, 2012, 03:40:09 PM »

She's still hanging in there. They took a liter and 1/2 of fluid off one lung today, maybe the other tomorrow. Her cancer dr advised against it because it will just keep coming back. Her heart dr talked her into it, and now says it might buy her another week or 2. She's in a lot of pain and miserable, hasn't hardly eaten for well over a week. She said she will not go through this again, we will gran her that. Been a long week. Charlie.

thumper113 · « **Reply #13 on:** August 09, 2012, 03:49:27 PM »

Charlie,

My prayers are with you, brother. Just had to watch Dad go through that. Hold her hand and tell her you love her and cherish the chance to do so and to stand by her side.

Rob

Needles · « **Reply #14 on:** August 09, 2012, 04:18:50 PM »

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. You only get one. I was an oncology certified RN for 13 years. For whatever it's worth, you are doing the right thing just by being with her. Sometimes they can do a pleuradesis, where they inject a drug into the chest that causes the lung to scar on the outside, so it sticks to the chest wall. That gets rid of the space between the lung and the chest so the fluid can't accumulate. Problem is, if the fluid is accumulating that fast, it won't work. Plus, it's really painful, and the side effects can be fatal, just by themselves. Just be there for her, and with her. That's what you can do.

billy_56081 · « **Reply #15 on:** August 09, 2012, 04:49:48 PM »

Sorry to hear that Charlie, parayers sent.

RevJim · « **Reply #16 on:** August 10, 2012, 03:05:04 AM »

In times like these, I encourage folks to "place them in God's hands" (which is a wonderful place to be, it helps take emotions out of the process some), and ask for Him to help them cross over to the other side. Death is an enemy to the life that is in us, and the struggle against it is automatic. Your Mom's generation went through a long struggle in life, and she is stronger than she thinks. I am praying against the pain and misery for her. I'm also believing for strength for you and your family. God bless, Rev Jim

powderman · « **Reply #17 on:** August 11, 2012, 05:01:18 PM »

I just lost another post. Might try again later. POWDERMAN.

powderman · « **Reply #18 on:** August 14, 2012, 03:59:26 PM »

Mom died about 1 AM this morning. They removed a liter and 1/2 of fluid Thurs, over 1/2 gal from the other lung Fri. She was wheezing again by Sat evening. Staff at hosp was horrible. Talk later. Thanks for the prayers guys. Charlie. Sad

ironglow · « **Reply #19 on:** August 14, 2012, 04:06:50 PM »

So sorry to hear that Charlie...my prayers will be with your family and loved ones.. Ironglow (2 Corinthians 5:1-8)

thumper113 · « **Reply #20 on:** August 14, 2012, 04:47:19 PM »

Our prayers are with you.

Tommyt · « **Reply #21 on:** August 15, 2012, 02:02:16 AM »

So sorry for your Loss
She is in better hands now
Prayers for you and family

Tommyt

Old Fart · « **Reply #22 on:** August 15, 2012, 03:07:21 AM »

Sorry for your loss.

guzzijohn · « **Reply #23 on:** August 15, 2012, 03:55:04 AM »

Charlie,
Sorry to hear.
GuzziJohn

gstewart44 · « **Reply #24 on:** August 15, 2012, 04:08:55 AM »

I am sorry for your loss Charlie,
Will keep you and family in my prayers.

RevJim · « **Reply #25 on:** August 15, 2012, 04:20:05 AM »

Sorry for you and your family. I am however grateful for your Mom ,and you, that she did not suffer any longer. "To be absent from the body is to be present with Christ", Paul siad. While we are happy for them, we are left with the painful fact that they are "not here" with us. It's during this grieving time I will especially be praying for strength for you and your family.

AtlLaw · « **Reply #26 on:** August 15, 2012, 04:58:21 AM »

Every time I see a post like this my heart sinks because I know the pain friends are going through. I'm thankful your mother is out of pain and I continue to pray yours will diminish over time.

Needles · « **Reply #27 on:** August 15, 2012, 05:06:27 AM »

I'm sorry for your loss. MDs often do not get any training in dealing with death and dying. (I'm not defending them--- most of 'em are emotionally frozen in their late teens, when they decided to become doctors. At that point, their whole life becomes training to be a doc, and there is not much room for anything else, like growing into an adult.) I'm disappointed with the RNs, though. THEY DO get that training. If they can not deal with it themselves they can not help anyone else. Your mom is at peace, now. The rest of the pain is all yours. Again, I'm sorry that anyone has to go through this. Try to balance the pain of life with the joy and wonder that is your life. I wish you peace.

Conan The Librarian · « **Reply #28 on:** August 15, 2012, 08:50:46 AM »

Powderman:

I'm sorry about her death. Best wishes for better days ahead.

spikehorn · « **Reply #29 on:** August 15, 2012, 10:32:08 AM »

Charlie sorry for your loss. Clan spikehorns prayers are with you. I lost my father last October and my mother went to be with him and the lord on July 1st. Your mom is in a much better place now.