Will I know its all in jest, venting about a spouse sometimes is a good way to come full circle.
But things have a way of taking care of themselves and you handled yourself very well.
That was a great story though about how you two met, Ann sounds like a strong woman and she
sure corralled you at an early age. There is a period in the life of a woman where they are much
more mature than a man of the same age is. We all have seen this and most men do admit to that.
But over time the male does catch up and a nurturing affect comes into play.
Thus comes about what men mean by saying ( my better half ). That's the beauty of a male and
female relationship, each gives the other segments of who they are that otherwise they wouldn't
have. God knew what he was doing as I'm sure you know. Over time once no longer there this fact
comes home full bore. It's really seen in the widowed, where one partner passes away and for no
aparent reason the other one soon follows. It's as if something so basic to the surviving spouse has
been removed and they can not exist without it. We still do not know much about this from a scientific
aspect. But I prefer to think that God just brings the survivor home as watch them suffer.
I watched this with my dad, and it put a strain on everything I knew or could do just to keep him
from giving up. He still has his moments and he thinks I don't see them but i do. It's like in the
movie second hand lions. Where that man would go into a trance like state remembering his
departed wife. This really happens guys, blood pressure drops, heart rate becomes erratic, and
those around him are faced with a serious problem. This is how it manifest itself in the men.
The women are a different story, they become withdrawn and seemingly helpless. They openly
live in the past and have mulible problems when dealing with everyday life. Simple things they
once did without a second thought, become insurmountable obstacles of not knowing what to do.
Theirs become a long and drawn out affair usually effecting thier mental possesses more than
anything else. This effects thier physical well being as if they are waisting away. Family support
can be crucial at this time, but many times it just isn't enough and the family's attempt to have
her committed or placed into an old folks home. I do NOT commit in these cases or recommend
a place in a retirement community. The family's become very agitated with me over this, but this
poor woman at a painful time in her life sees things in her offspring that she is powerless to stop.
Not aways, but Will I swear sometimes I want to commit the family's !
