Zulu, I have the same problem with heat control. I solved the first part by using the weed burner to warm up the mold to what I think is about 4-500, but then eventually the mold gets too hot and they start coming out bad again. I'ts a constant battle like you said, to get them out quick so they don't heat up the mold, but still leave enough time to solidify. And the hotter the mold gets, the longer it takes to solidify and the hotter the mold gets....chasing your tail. All this while trying to keep the zinc pot at a good temp as John says. When you first look at the melt temps of zinc and lead you think...no problem just a lil hotter and I'm in bidness. Taint that easy. Whole new ball game with zinc.
I did come up with a good source for zinc I should share though. When I first started looking I would by from scrap yards. After my experiences I don't advise this. With all the other temperamental things going on with zinc, having a bunch of dirty, inconsistent, slag topped garbage makes it impossible to get good castings. So I got some Zamak ingots from a zinc supplier and it eliminated at least some of the problems, but it was really expensive. Then I got an idea to call an actual user (a big zinc casting mfg) instead of a supplier. The suppliers don't care about a guy who wants to buy a few hundred pounds which is small potatoes. So they gouge you if they will sell at all. Googled zinc die casting and called and spoke to an owner who was willing to sell zamak ingots (18lb segmented) for 25 cents over spot metal prices. Spot price is 1.10 right now and I paid 1.35 a pound cash for zamac 3. I was paying 1.00 for scrap crap! The segmented bars are nice. You don't even have to cut them. I just hit the bar over an anvil with the segment hanging over the end and it snaps off. I might have been lucky to find a guy who would sell to me, but I had a whole list of die casters and this was my first call.