You have many questions............
Others will jump in here for sure, but, here are a few suggestions.....
Slug the bore. This will tell you what diameter the boolits need to be. They can vary from being equal too the bore diameter, to .001-.002" over. This will just be a starting point as far as obtaining best accuracy however.
Wanna see if the larger boolits will chamber? You can try sizing the brass in your ?45 70? sizing die, and seating a .458 boolit into the brass. This is a dummy round, so no powder, no primer. Do not crimp. Leave the boolit proud and don't seat to the crimp groove. Gently push the dummy round into the chamber to see if it will chamber. It may hit hit the lands before it fully chambers.....that's good. Ease the boolit deeper into the case and try again. If you can chamber the dummy round with the boolit .010 off the lands, then it will shoot. Whether is is the correct fit for your bore is another matter.......you're back to slugging the bore to get this info.