My father went to his grave supporting my mother and being a man in the way in which the U. S. Navy (he was a WW2 Lt. JG and the Skipper in charge of a Mine Sweeper in the Pacific) and his father before them taught him, through responsible hard work, dedication to wife and family, and faith in God.
I did not see my mother and father argue nor ever a hand raised in anger. That would have been the end of it. My Mom would not have tolerated an abusive relationship. She was TOTALLY IN CHARGE of the household - and the disciplinarian to us as kids.
Dad worked long hours and a lot of overtime in the 50's through 80's to provide a good home and college for four kids. Dad DID look a whole heap like Sean Connery in his face, beard, and eyes, but not the British accent.