It looks like im getting married.

[phalanx]

To my long time girlfriend and she no longer wants to be just that. No more bachelor living and i have to clean up my act. Shes a California girl ( former surfer)but not a liberal, she’s a conservative Christian. You guys got any tips you can tell me. It’s been over 30 years since I was married.

[Dee]

Swiss Bank account, and I know a Mexican that can make a fake ID that'll fool almost anybody. Did that help?

[BUGEYE]

Make "yes dear" a major part of your vocabulary.
And don't stop telling her how good she looks.

[Lloyd Smale]

lets see. I was married the first time for 7 years. Second one after 10 years of being a Batchler has lasted 20. If she died tomorrow id be single till i died. Marriage is work! Especially for an obstinate sob like me. 

[phalanx]

Swiss Bank account, and I know a Mexican that can make a fake ID that'll fool almost anybody. Did that help?

Lol ,Dee i will take that into consideration.

[phalanx]

Make "yes dear" a major part of your vocabulary.
And don't stop telling her how good she looks.

Oh no trouble with her looks

[gene_225]

Tell her every day that you love her and how beautiful she is.

[phalanx]

I tell her that all the time so does everyone else.

[ironglow]

 I was married for over 60 years when my wife died.  I would do it all over again, with the same woman.
   
Bank account?  For me, it was I throw my weekly paycheck on the table along with hers, and she took care of it..  Each used what we wished and saved the rest,,neither being spendthrifts, it worked.

    Tips?
     A) As you stand before all you friends and relations to take your vows, remember you are standing before God also, and don't enter with the idea.."If it doesn't work out...well"..

     B) You both are Christians. If it is not so now, find a good Bible preaching and teaching church and attend regularly.  ..Not only for the teaching, but also for a church family, who can help through any rough spots.

     C) Any bad habits..especially any that can be addictive, start breaking them now.. since they can put a strain on any marriage.

     D) Always refer to her respectfully around other people..self explanatory..

      E) Any decisions to be made...think of your other half first.  If you both do that, you will build a strong marriage.

  ..Best wishes..and blessings..

[Lloyd Smale]

did the same with the first wife with money but everytime i said i needed some there was none. THis time she keeps her paycheck, i keep my retirement and my social security pays the bills. That way if i want something i buy it and if she wants something she buys it. No discussion needed. We each stick 200 bucks a month in a savings account for just in case along with whats left each month from the social security. I have no clue whats in her checking account and dont care and the same goes for mine. Alot less friction that way.

[Bob Riebe]

RUN AWAY, RUN AWAY!

[phalanx]

Thanks IG.we have been together for so long people thought we were married. We weren't living together per say. But she was my close neighbor. Her name is Rebecca shes giving her house to her daughter.

[phalanx]

She will be 63 on the 28th. I will be 69 in November. She said stop calling me kid you old codger. Dang that woman works out a lot. She always has.

[phalanx]

Nope i couldn't attachment's to work, tried my i phone and it didn’t work. With the phone i couldn’t get on this site.

[Land_Owner]

There is doubt in this thread title. Better settle that before it becomes permanent.

[Ranger99]

Congratulations
Hope everything works out

Likely old enough that none of the
stupid notions can get inside like
so many get infected with in 2022

[ironglow]

  You are both mature, sensible and saved..looks like the odds are in your favor.  Here's wishing you two all happiness

[JeffG]

Going heavy on the honesty and easy on the stupidity, goes a long way. 

[oldandslow]

If, at your ages, you don't have it figured out by now I don't have any advise to offer.  If things are done right it will last. IG is a good example. My wife and I are at 63 years and counting now.

I changed my mind and will offer one thing. Never go to bed mad at each other. If you have a argument about something hash it out right then and get over it. The is something in the old saying of a happy wife means a happy life but it works both ways. Here's best wishes for a happy life for you two.

[phalanx]

In all these years of being boyfriend and girlfriend we haven’t ever had a major argument. I only asked because we do understand that marriage isn’t going to be the same as as what we had. Just In case I'm missing something. Love is love that hasn’t changed ,she helped me raise my two daughters, and she did a pretty good job of it. They called her mommy Becca.
The real mom lost custody back in the late 80s running around with a crack head cocaine cowboy, and they got busted. This is happening a lot these days where the dad gets custody.

[ironglow]

   Excellent advice from O&S..also Biblical advice..

   
    “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:”  (Ephesians 4:26)


       

[VA Rifleman]

Sounds like you found a keeper Phalanx. Big Congrats!

[Buckskin]

My condolences.

[phalanx]

We tied the knot this morning, it’s official. Can’t go to Ruidoso so were going to Cloudcroft instead.

[Dee]

Congratulations to both.

[Bob Riebe]

We tied the knot this morning, it’s official. Can’t go to Ruidoso so were going to Cloudcroft instead.

May God Bless your marriage.

[phalanx]

Thanks to all of you, she was very happy. On our way to cloudcroft now. She’s driving and knows the way. Gonna eat in Roswell.